(Closed) Oh Holy Jesus, give me the strength not to kill her.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
296 posts
Helper bee

Oh man, I am so sorry! Maybe all brides-to-be should just walk around with a tattoo on their foreheads that reads, “I’m the one getting married, not you, so keep your opinions to yourself and STFU!!!” Too long? Wink

But seriously, I don’t think people like this realize how much their comments can hurt or affect others. Just don’t let it get to you – on the actual day, she will be so happy for you, and it will make her forget all the other things that she did or didn’t want. 

Post # 4
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

we are all allowed some bridal breakdowns during planning! i had a few myself. one in particular over seating arragements (really?!, of all things?)

Hang in there and plan the wedding of your dreams ๐Ÿ™‚ you only do it once.

Post # 7
5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I love the title of this post. At Christmas my Future Mother-In-Law went on and on about what a gigantic waste weddings are. This segued into how no one should have kids in this terrible f’d up world. I just smiled and ate some more pie.

Post # 8
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Can’t your fiance talk to her about this? I hate when my Mother-In-Law badgers me about money, it’s incredibly rude.

Post # 11
2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

or can we have biiitm

because it is important to me


I am tired of people asking why

Post # 13
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Its definitely a tough situation when your Future Mother-In-Law has totally different values or opinions about your wedding.  My Future Mother-In-Law is very sweet and kind, but she comes from a totally different generation, place, culture and time.  (Think very frugal, backyard bbq rehearsal dinner, etc).  That’s the way her wedding was and how everyone in her family got married.  So our wedding (even though its very small and pretty reasonable) seems overly extravagant to her at times.

The best way I can put it into perspective is how I view my teenage cousin.  All of her obsessing over her high school prom made me roll my eyes.  She obsessed about every little thing and I thought “man you won’t even care in a few years.”  But to her it was really important.  I tend to think our MILs probably look at it the same way.  “All of this money and fuss for one day!  They won’t even care about the flowers or invitations in a few years!”

I totally feel you about having a random breakdown.  I have definitely had my share over my engagement (thank God we are getting married in just under 3 weeks!)  Just make sure your fiance supports you, protects you from his mama when he should, and that you get enough rest!  Even though my Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t understand our wedding, I’m confident that when she looks back at our wedding she’ll think it was beautiful nonetheless (and will secretly brag about to it to all her friends).  

Good luck!

Post # 14
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Mrs.tobe: *HUGS YOU* I wubs you too, and yeah there are plenty of people who want this wedding! *me included*

Im glad you held it together though- way to be ๐Ÿ˜€ Im also impressed because I dont have NEAR that kind of patience with people…I may be sweet but I have a short temper sometimes!

๐Ÿ˜€ hope to talk to you laters!

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