- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
im 17 days away from my wedding and if i had two words to describe it i would say “over it” and also explains the lack of emotion in this post. heres why:
1. i planned my own bachelorette party. my Maid/Matron of Honor basically told all my BMs that she didnt need help or would reply “got it covered” when any of my BMs asked her for help. we all decided we were going to chicago months and ago (2 hours from my city) and so 3 weeks before the date we still had absolutely nothing planned!! so i took it upon myself to find the hotel, plan the itinerary and find good prices on everything. i got no favors, no fun lil gifts nothing. isnt that part of her job? and i had to pay my own way for everything, drinks, dinner, hotel, etc. now i know times are tough for some of them but they had months to plan and know about this. i would never expect anything more from any of them than what i would do for them. needless to say it did not feel like my bach, just a night out with friends in chicago.
2. i had zero as in no shower decorations. yea i walked into a plain room in a park. now this is a minor detail but my Bridesmaid or Best Man who was put in charge of decorations not only came late, but came with 12 plates and like 5 cups in hand and no decorations. she just recently got laid off and has a part time job. but still, if it was a money thing shouldnt she have spoke up so that my other bms or mom could have done this task?? i was hurt and disappointed by this small little detail. she never said sorry or anything my other BMs are pissed at her and they were the ones who told me she was in charge of decorations, so she might not even know that i know. what confuses me is that we played a “how well do u know the bride game” and she answered almost all my questions right. im so confused. i feel like after the wedding i dont even want to talk to her anymore. i had to pay her way to my bach so not only did i have to pay for myself, i paid her way too. she owes me like $300 ! not sure if i will ever see that money again but i just feel like i made the worst decision making her a Bridesmaid or Best Man when i am closer with cousins who would have done such a better job.