(Closed) "Oh I thought it was a solitaire" ring sadness PIC HEAVY

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
706 posts
Busy bee

Every style isn’t for everyone! There are conversations here all the time about people hating clusters, halos, big solitaires, small solitaires, heart shapes, pear shapes, princess cuts. Whatever. I always HATE when people say ” it only matters what you like”. No one wants to me told what they have is inadequate.  Please don’t let someone else’s rude comments steal your joy. Life is too short. Change your ring if you want, but not because some hateful B! is rude!!

Post # 33
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@blushingbride1013:  i think you should love what the ring means and not what people think.

its a beautiful ring and im sure he paid a pretty penny for it.

if i were in your shoes i would not dare say a thing about ring regret for a ring that you picked yourself. he might take it as you being ungrateful.

good luck and i really hope you fall in love with your ring again and not allow peoples opinion affect you.

Post # 35
50 posts
Worker bee

I think it’s beautiful!!

As other bees said, “who cares what others say???!!  

You NEVER say eeew…it’s not a solitaire!!! How tiny! or any of those comments!! What do they know??  So what if that’s all your fiancee could afford, or if that’s what you like???  PEOPLE!!! Grrrrrr……so rude!!! 

If you end up not liking it…as some of us change our minds about these rings (me included) try to find a good jeweler in your town…they always have great ideas.  

You can have your ring re-done for your anniversary, or something like that…just hint your man and he’ll understand…my husband is totally supportive of my “indeciseveness” but I try very hard to not stress him out that I want my ring “melted and redesigned” but he does like to make me happy, and I love that about him.  I’m very lucky, I know.  

We’ve been married for a very long time.  

My first ring was set in a six-prong classic plain ring.  Then, when we got married, a jewelery store sales person convinced me to buy a setting with channel-set diamonds, and an eternity band to go with it…well, almost 10 years later, I mentioned it to my jeweler, and he asked me to bring in a picture of what I like…I did and he used the gold and the 12 diamonds from my engagement ring to make my new ones…and I LOVE IT!!! 

Good luck, and don’t give any time to negative people.  You do what you think it’s best for you (and your love, of course!!)


Post # 36
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Omg! These rings are all fabulously beautiful!

Post # 37
3134 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Don’t listen to these rude people!  I mean I can see maybe the comment about thinking it was a solitaire at first, because I think that is maybe the intent of the style?  But as for thinking it’s cheap, I’m pretty sure that a one carat center stone with another carat of diamonds around it is not cheap, regardless of the arrangement!

Post # 38
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I cant believe someone would say that!! your ring is gorge!!!!

Post # 39
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i think your ring (and everyone else’s) is beautiful! shame on those comments. people can be so damn rude, ugh. i’m sorry. don’t have any remorse of your ring. it’s really stunning!!! it’s a modern take on a classic solitaire and i think that’s awesome.

Post # 41
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I love yours way more than a simple solitare. I think they are classic, but pretty boring – everybody has one! Rock your unique rock!

Post # 42
4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think your ring is really pretty. And I consider it more of a halo, anyway. Anyone who is rude about it is probably having her own problems that don’t have to do with you at all, let alone your ring.

Post # 43
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I had ring regret for a little while and then I realized it was just because I wasn’t pleased with people’s reactions to it.  With time, I’ve “settled in” to my ring and I really love it.  So…. give it some time.  ๐Ÿ™‚

And tell that girl to F-off.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 44
36 posts
  • Wedding: December 2014

@bluebelle23:  +1




I am so sad for you!! Your ring is beautiful! WHY DO WOMEN DO THIS TO EACH OTHER! Your ring is so pretty, and any woman who thinks otherwise should either A. shut up or B. just shut up. 




(Also,  the same thing happened to me a few years ago, my husband and I do not have children, (nor are we planning to) and we’re both working, so we live comfortaly. I do not own any diamond jewelry or any jewelry over 200-300 bucks except my wedding/e-ring, so he/we decided to upgrade my original diamond (1.65) to a 2.25 carat diamond, with a nice spread for my birthday. Everyone else just said “looks beautiful/lovely” EXCEPT my very best friend. She told me it was “way too big” and looks gaudy and that, that money would have been better used in our retirement account. You really can’t win with some people.) Cost/carat weight/finger coverage–there will always be someone with an opinion that is rude–so WEAR WHAT YOU LOVE! ๐Ÿ™‚ 




Post # 45
5622 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Oh gosh, don’t let other peoples opinions get to you!

If YOU loved it, there was a reason.

If you had a solitaire, they would just find other comments to make, “Oh, it’s not a good cut, color, size, ect”.

Or then they’d pick on the setting.

It’s not BAD to have something differant.

Post # 46
833 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013


I love my cluster ring! Its unique, i wouldnt trade it for anything else!

I also think my ring looks like a flower ๐Ÿ˜› so it makes me love it more ๐Ÿ˜€



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