(Closed) Oh I’m a terrible person!!

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Uum, my husband told me.  I hadn’t taken a test yet-but he knew. I don’t know how-we were trying NOT to conceive.  Congratulations. No you are not a terrible person. BTW-how did he handle the news?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Did you two plan on the pregnancy? If so, any way you chose to tell him is fine I think. If you have both been excited about it, then I can see you wanting to tell him right away. I guess I’m confused on why you think you are terible?? For me, I]in the future (I am in no way ready) I picture myself doing it in person, over a nice dinner at home or something. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You’re not a bad person! Finding out your pregnant is an emotional thing and everyone is entitled to react a little strangely. Laughing

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

O, well in that case I would have told him privately. I wouldn’t want him freaking out with his friend lol. But no, your not a terrible person. Its always a blessing, just hard when you’re not prepared – hence the upset / happy thing.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

@creativeplannertobee: That’s when it happens, when YOU’RE NOT trying! LOL! That would be my advice to couples, don’t try and it will happen! My husband and I were not trying either and we have a beautiful 16-month-old! =)

 

 

@MrsMckaytoBE: You’re not a terrible person.  It is a little scary but I know you will both be very happy! Your fiancee will be too! What’s that saying? “Women become moms when they find out they are pregnant, men become dads when they hold their baby in their arms.” So yea, he might just have to get used to the idea a little. Congrats!! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I also tested without my husband.

He was gone all day at a conference and I just couldn’t wait.

I did wait until he came home to tell him…..but he was shocked because I let him talk for like 10min about his day and then I just blurted it out  “I think I might be pregnant!!”

Then I took another this morning while he was home. 

It doesn’t make you a terrible person. I mean…I did it without him AND I called one of my best friends because I was freaking out. So I even told somene else before I told him!! haha!  🙂

You are not terrible at all

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i plan on testing without my husband! id love to tell him in a suprising way!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You are not a terrible person, you just weren’t expecting this. It’s super freaky when you’re not trying and find out. One day you will look back and laugh. I did something similar to my FH and we laugh now, but at the time I felt like I ruined everything by being such a jerk.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

The first time I found out I was pregnant my husband was in the hospital when I found out. i didn’t think I was pregnant but we had been TTC so I decided just to take the test to keep me from wondering. Well, I ended up having to call him to tell him that we were having a baby, right after he found out he was going to have major surgery with a really hard recovery. It wasn’t as happy of a moment as I would have wished.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I took a test for fun and then when a faint pink line came up, I took it to him and asked “are there 2 lines here?!?” haha. Then, after 4 more tests, all he had to say was “Congratulations!!!” haha. So excited to be  a dad!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My husband knew I was taking a test and we read it together but it still was a surprise.  Think about it this way, if it wasn’t planned, there really may not be a great way to tell him.  At least this way he was able to process it on his own in private before addressing the situation with you. 

Congratulations!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Congrats!  I don’t even see how you could consider yourself a horrible person.  Maybe you didn’t like your delivery, but you didn’t keep info from him.  At least not for long!  And honestly, with news like that, and not necessarily anticipating it, I can imagine a tactful approach isn’t the first thing you’d think of.  You’re probably still in shock!  No worries 🙂

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