(Closed) Oh In-Laws!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sorry, but I think it’s kind of funny!  She’s obviously desperate for attention.  Has she been jealous/ attention needing in the past or is this something new for her?  At least her husband can see how ridiculous she is being also.  I think you all just have to chalk it up to one of her quirks.  If she butts in at your shower or wedding to show her new ring, people will just think she’s being weird and rude. 

Post # 4
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5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think she just wants attention and people probably feel sorry for her when she jumps in after you to show your ring. I wouldnt worry about it just ignore it..I’m sure she will stop when she doesnt get the reactions she was hoping for… 

Post # 5
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230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Future Mother-In-Law actually did almost the exact thing. I took her dress shopping with me and the last shop ended by a jewelry store. The next time we saw her, she had a huge rock on her finger and was showing it off to everyone. Now she’s trying to convince her mom to loan her a set of jewlery to wear to the wedding that in her words “puts the stuff I’m wearing to shame.”

I think FMILs get a little jealous that they aren’t having their own wedding sometimes. Just ignore her.

Post # 6
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1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Eh….You want to show off your ring, she wants to show off her ring… I wouldn’t be bothered by it myself.  Every gal, engaged, recommitted or otherwise, deserves to have people admire their jewelry – even if they buy it for themselves!  I’m sure you aren’t with her all the time, and you have plenty of opportunities to have people admire your ring. 

Post # 7
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11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So weird and annoying! Just ignore it – not worth having Future Mother-In-Law drama over!

Post # 8
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3232 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

LOL, desperate much?  I can’t believe she ran out and bought herself a new ring AFTER her sons proposed to their FIs.  LOL, I’d laugh about it with your Future Sister-In-Law but for the most part ignore it.  

I just question what she’s going to do with either you or your Future Sister-In-Law have a baby?  Geesh, lol maybe she’ll run out and adopt.  Could you imagine having a little SIL or Brother-In-Law that’s younger than your baby?  J/K

Post # 9
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735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I got engaged last July.  My aunt lives a few thousand miles from me, so I didn’t see her until Christmas.  This aunt says I’m her favorite niece (and occasionally tells people she wishes her daughters were more like me.)  I know she loves me.

I stopped by her house to visit in December.  She immediately grabbed my finger “Lemme see the ring!”  She held it up for a second or two, then shoved her own ring in my face. “Look what I just had made for me!  It cost $xx,xxx!”  And she went on for a minute or two.  And it is a lovely ring.  But she bought it for herself as a symbol that she doesn’t need a man.  My mom interrupted and told my aunt “UmbrellaMoon’s is an antique.”  My aunt looked me like she forgot I was there.  Then she hugged me and told me that “he did good.”

My aunt was, in fact, happy for me.  She just felt insecure about her own position in life AND proud of the jewelry that she was able to acquire.  Was she a little self-centered?  Sure.  Does it mean that she intended to be mean or rude?  Nah.  She wanted to JOIN the party and be part of the “club.”

Just because we age doesn’t mean we figure everything out and always behave perfectly under pressure. 

I’m sorry that your Future Mother-In-Law is acting oddly, but, if all else is well in your relationship,  I think that she might be trying to bond with you – albeit in an odd way – and not actually trying to out do you.  Perhaps a girls’ day with legitimate bonding might help to reduce the odd behavior?

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