Post # 1
So I think I’ve been breaking my Shut It Up pact without knowing it, LOL. oops.
We tell each other mushy stuff frequently, one of them being “I want to be with you forever” or “I’m so glad we’ll be together forever” etc etc. Pukeworthy, I know. We’re disgusting, lol. When I am fishing for something romantic I’ll ask him to tell me something sweet, and last night I did that and he says “I want to be with you forever.” It made me giggle at the time because he had just told me that earlier which I reminded him of, and he said, “Yeah, I know, but it’s true and it gives you something to look forward to,” and I’m thinking, what does he mean?? Wouldn’t we both have something to look forward to….? Before I could even say anything he proceeded to tell me how he was browsing in a pawn shop and saw this men’s wedding ring he really likes and wants to take a picture to show me (his camera is broken though and he’s out of town 🙁 ) and he thinks he want something like that. He kept on about it for a few minutes.
So obviously that particular sweet thing he tells me is wedding related to him!! It didn’t occur to me because we have said that to each other the last couple years, waaaaayyy before we talked about getting engaged. I’ve not been so sure about marriage in the past, but I knew I wanted to be with him the rest of my life, and he wants to be with me married or not as well, so that’s what it meant to us (and yes, we explicitly discussed this many times). But I guess it has deeper meaning to him now that we are planning on getting engaged.
So now I don’t know if I should say this to him or not! I’m confused, but a good kind of confused. Does it break the pact if I say it?
Post # 3
Oh dear lord. He *just* texted me: “Love my princess forever.” Awwww…. he’s killing me…
Post # 4
Darling Husband and I said that a lot before one day, when I did exactly what you described and asked him to tell me something sweet, he texted me back and said, “I’m just going to cut the crap. We’ve been dancing around it for ages, but I’m sick of that and just want to say it. I want to marry you one day and make a family with you. I want to grow old with you by my side. When I say I will love you forever, that’s what I mean.”
I would definitely say that your man’s comments are promising, and it doesn’t count as breaking your pact if he brings it up!
Post # 5
@frogprincess: It’s not breaking the pact! You no longer really have the need for it. He is telling you he wants to marry you! Tell the guy already, sheesh! 🙂 Let him know you want what he wants just as much as he wants it.
Post # 6
@GreenEyedMoon: Awwwww!!! omigosh how sweet! I bet that made your day when you got that back. Looks like he made good on his promise, too! Thank you for the encouragement. 🙂
Post # 7
He brought it up first! Pact not broken 🙂
That’s sooo cute and mushy though. Just tell him already! Say the words.
Post # 8
@Sunfire: Oh he knows. 🙂 We had the big talk in January when I “confessed” that I did want to marry him, as well as be together forever. We’ve talked about it more since then and I’ve picked out a ring, he has all the info on it… so I’m just waiting for him to plan his proposal because he wants to do the whole surprise thing, which I’m excited about. I just don’t want to overtalk it or be annoying, so I took the Shut It Up pact about 2 months ago…