(Closed) Oh, Life and It's Curveballs…..

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1334 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

First, I think your feelings are yours, and this is a safe place to share them 🙂  When you are waiting, it can be frustrating to see people ‘pass you up’ time and time again, especially when you feel yours is so soon! 

Just because this friend is engaged does not mean you guys have to stop ‘dreaming’ about your one day wedding!  It just means that when she needs you to talk about hers, you respect that, and do what you can, etc.

It also does not mean that a potential engagement of yours needs to be put on the back burner when it happens.  Many, if not ALL OF US, would agree that getting an engaged is an event, just like having a wedding is ONE day.  All the days/moments in between those are open to many many life changing events for others, such as the announcement of an engagment, another wedding day, pregnancy news, etc!  It gives you, or anyone an opportunity to share tips, share excitment, have your parties, and have someone elses!

I think my insight for you is to be supportive of your friend, just as she will be supportive you when your time comes!!  AND, to help turn this into something positive…hopefully…I find that the more people that ‘go ahead of me’…and there have been LOTS is an opportunity for me to keep learning what I want, or do not want.  Great ideas for my one day wedding, and maybe not so great ideas.  Ways to save, and ways to spend, etc.  Consider yourself lucky to have that too!!

Post # 4
482 posts
Helper bee

Well she moves fast lol. What’s her secret? 😡 I’m definitely the eternal bridesmaid girl so I get your disappointment. All you can do is try to be ssupportive and try to keep the green eyed monster at bay. It doesn’t mean your planning has to stop if you are certain your guy is on the same page.

At your ages you two should be progressing a bit more. Atleast engaged by the 2yr mark. Do you live together? I don’t know if you plan to have kids but timing is key at our ages. Have you ever asked him for a timeline?

Post # 5
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

Aww, I don’t have any advice but I do feel for you! It really sucks, vent here all you like and continue being the best friend you can be.


your time definitely can’t be that far away and no matter what has happened before it, it will still be special and exciting. All the best to you x

Post # 6
11754 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’ll have your special day to plan when you get engaged.  

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