(Closed) Oh, Love Languages…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

What are your love languages?

Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service

What are your SO’s love languages?

Acts of Service and Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation not far behind

How do you show them to each other?

We constantly strive to show each other we appreciate each other by complimenting each other and doing little things for each other here and there. He is very much a cuddler and is very passionate in bed.

Were there any “oh duh!” moments when you figured out your/SO’s love languages like “THIS is why they do THAT!”

 Not really. I appreciate that book for helping so many people out, but our love languages are nearly identical so we never encountered much problems. Other then the fact that he likes to cuddle way more then I do…I just need my space sometimes.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My primary love language is Quality Time closely followed by Physical Touch. It didn’t really wow SO to find this out, or change our relationship. But it made a huge difference with my family. My family was for most of my childhood very untouchy (very likely due to abuse in parents childhoods). It wasn’t until I started dating my SO that I realised how important hugs and holding hands was to me, and boy did it make a difference with relationship with my family when I started giving hugs and holding hands at home. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@Azyriah:  Oh. Duh. Because it wasn’t even on there. I feel dumb now. Thank you!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Without official quiz answers from both… we’re Quality Time and Physical Touch with a side helping of Words of Affirmation.

If you take the quiz, ignore how it’s phrased and just answer which you like more.  The first time I did it when we were dating it was wonky because it had questions like:

I wish my husband would send me funny email OR I would like my husband would hold me more.

Since I’m very literal I picked the email, since we do plenty of holding lol… but that scored as that I liked the email more than the holding.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@MrsTangerine:  So I’m guessing I should put married since the only other option is single?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s what I did.  We weren’t even engaged when I first saw it linked on somewhere else, we were living together and already people thought of us (including us) as a stable long term couple that was going to be “that annoying happy old couple” Darling Husband was anti-marriage when I met him and I didn’t care!  You see how that worked out :).

I didn’t even look at the single option lol.

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Chrysoberyl:  sorry meant to reply to you with my last post but then couldn’t figure how to add your name/link in for reply after the fact. 🙁

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@MrsTangerine:  Hahaha it’s okay. Hm kinda annoying that there’s no in between options. It’s a little quiz, not taxes!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Chrysoberyl:  No kidding!  And I just took it again all the way through trying to “guess” what it’s really looking for (since literal answers were WAY off)… and it’s better than literal (lol) but still not right.  It got Touch and Quality time right as the highest (10ish almost equal). 

BUT It ranks Gifts after and then Acts of Service… neither of which I care about.  Words of Affirmation is my real life 3rd regardless what it says (that it was the lowest)!

I say it’s a fun internet quiz but don’t take it to heart if you don’t already know the real answers!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Paiger8:  This is very interesting! I think I would score highly in that department as well, and the physical affection one as well. My SO is not one to give out compliments, but he knows I like to hear ” you look/smell nice” when it’s obviouse that I have put myself together. And SO Is %100 acts of service! He always fills my ga tank, fixes my bike and makes sure I have some dinner when I get gome from my night classes.

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