(Closed) Oh mother!!….Vent….

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Maybe I just don’t see what you do… but I don’t see what she did so wrong. 

Post # 4
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Agree w/lilyfaith. May this be the worst of your wedding problems! It sounds like your mom is actually excited about her dress. Why is it particularly important that she not have the same shade as the BMs again? Am I missing something?

Post # 5
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t really see the problem.  I mean, there are only so many shades of navy blue…

She’s never going to outshine you, no matter what color she wears. 

Post # 6
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree… I don’t see the issue. My mother is so insecure about finding a dress/pantsuit that she’ll feel pretty in… she could wear a purple polka dot jumper for all I care, as long as she feels pretty and proud to be my mamma at the wedding!

I actually think it’s great that your mom will co-ordinate with your wedding party–at the very least, she won’t clash!

Seems like good news to me. I second rplatzer–may this be the worst you go through.

Post # 7
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with the prvious posters, I don’t understand why your upset, I would be happy if my mom color coordinated with my wedding look also.

EDIT: sorry i posted at the same time as you and didn’t see your reply, i guess that would explain why your so upset. Eh let it go she’ll coordinate with the wedding and she’ll never outshine you.

Post # 9
3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh honey!  I can SO SO SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO relate to you but my mom’s exact words were: “I’m afraid I might upstage you.”  She said this twice to me and finally I just looked at her and said, “Mom, no one is upstaging ME on MY day!” and I walked away.  She hasn’t peeped about upstaging me since.

I recommend saying something like this to your mom.  If I hear my mom mention it one more time I’m planning on having a talk with her.  Perhaps you can do that same?  It was very upsetting (angry upset, not crying upset) to me when she said this to me and I can tell by your post how upset it made you. 

Good luck.

Post # 10
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I understand where you’re coming from.  I personally did not want my mom or the MOG wearing the same color as the bridesmaids because EVERY time I’ve seen the moms wear the same shade, I’ve thought it looked like the moms were really old bridesmaids.  I think it looks silly.  Others might think it looks cute, but I don’t.  So I get that you didn’t want your mom to match the bridesmaids. 

Have you seen the dress yet?  Maybe it’s not as matchy matchy as you think… besides, you probably won’t be taking that many pictures where your mom AND your bridesmaids are both in the pictures.  I would try to just take a deep breath and move on…. you have SO many more things to stress out over that this is probably going to seem SO small and tiny once you look back on it. 🙂

Post # 12
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t think your overreacting. I think if you specifically asked her to stay away from a certain color than she should have respected that. She’s pointing out that its only one shade darker than the Bridesmaid or Best Man so she knows what you requested. She knows she didn’t meet your request. & for someone to say their going to “outshine” you on your day. Well that’s just rude. I don’t care who it is. Some things are better left unsaid. Especially from your mom. Wowza. Sorry Girl!

Post # 13
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I feel for you!

My mom’s total “all about me” person. She keeps reminding me that her Mom book says that she’s the second most important person next to the bride.

I’m sorry!! Not much advice to offer you. Just pick your battles. I’m sure more will come 🙂



Post # 14
2066 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think you are over reacting.  I’d be annoyed if MOB or MOG was wearing the same color as the bridemaids (hello – they aren’t young and shouldn’t try to dress like the bridesmaids).

If your Mom is way over dressed for your wedding, she will stand out, but not in a good way.  There is no way she will out shine you at your wedding and you should tell her that.  And explain its tacky for her to even try.

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