(Closed) oh my goodness!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are having to go through this. I am doing my planning my way and asking my fiance his opinion on a few things; just so he feels included. I really don’t care what anyone else in our families think. It is our day and we are paying for everything, so they can say or do what they want, but it will be our decision on everything. We are happy and that is what matters. I feel like running away at times too, but I know that if I did I would wonder what I missed by setting everything up the way we are. It is stressful, but I do things in shifts. I am not asking for help from anyone and I am not expecting help from anyone. If they offer, I will consider the source and then decide if I want their help or not. Right now, I have 32 items just on my DIY list. I am doing one at a time and hopefully I will get everything done on time. I know that whatever happens though that it will be totally worth it.

Post # 4
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

WE support you!  Don’t give up – just take a long vacation from it.  You have plenty of time 🙂

Post # 5
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4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My girlfriend did! So, they went to Vegas. Had a real wedding in a chapel, but planned it all in like a week and told their families. Then it was be there if you can! So far though, we have been lucking with zero drama~knock on wood!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You dont know how many times I was like “Lets just elope”!!! My mom was even like you guys should just take a tropical vacation and get married while you are there! There was just SO much drama with his family and it was unbearable!!! My parents/friends were extremely supportive of us, but it was hard. Thats when we stopped planning our wedding for about a month and a half and we were like we will tell you when we are ready to tell you things STOP ASKING!!! Just take a deep breath and remember that the wedding itself will be amazing! Try to remove yourself from the drama. Choose your battles wisely. And compromise if it means making someone else happy in order to avoid a full on blow out. OY VEY is all I can say about planning a wedding!!!

Post # 7
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think I say “Let’s Just Elope” about every other day. In the end, the fact that I want my parents and friends there wins, but sometimes it doesn’t feel worth it. I broke down in the car the other day and told my Fiance that I feel like our wedding day is going to end up being about everybody except us, and if we eloped, it would be all about us. He’s assured me that this isn’t going to happen, and that everyone will finally realize that it’s the one day in our entire lives where we can call all the shots. We’ll see if that actually happens or not!

My advice is just to stick with your man. If you and he are happy with the wedding plans, then that’s all that matters. If others don’t like it, they don’t have to show up!

I also heard some great advice about the wedding day – take many breaks together. As often as you can, find time for just the two of you. In the end, making small talk with every guest is not as important as the memories of the two of you together on that day.

Good luck!

Post # 8
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1037 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

Wedding planning can be stressful, I hear you! But, in the end it will be worth it I am sure! At times, I’ve just wanted to throw my hands in the air and suggest to Mr. Buttons that we head out to Vegas…but then I think about all of the memories I would potentially miss out on, and I change my mind back! Stay strong…it is an emotional time, but you can get through it!

Post # 9
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1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have wanted to elope every other day since we began planning! I would miss the memories of having all our friends and family around us, supporting us, and showing us their love. I just hope, in the end, all the stress and tears leaves us with one of the most amazing, happy, stress free days of our lives. I find, when overwhelmed, that taking time off from wedding planning helps a whole ton. It was the only way I survived October. 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I feel the same! We just got to stick it out, the planning has already begun for us and deposits were already made that are non-refundable, im trying not to let other people’s negativity affect our wedding day! Im doing everything me myself and Fi, thats it, no help from anybody financially or emotionally

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