Post # 1
So I chose not to register for gifts.
I have a couple people, one of them in particular emailed and said “Hi ____ and I (two friends) were wondering if and where you’re registered.”
How do I respond? I don’t want it to seem like I didn’t register so they give money … and also I am not having a bridal shower either … so they may think they are not invited? I don’t know what to do!!!!!
What is the proper reply?
Post # 3
I would just politly respond telling them that you have chosen not to register anywhere. You may also add in that if you decide to register you will them them know ASAP. Or do you have a website you can direct them to that will simply state that you are not going to register anywhere and give your reason for doing so.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas
I agree with kdlowery. There are a lot of couples opting not to register for gifts now, so I don’t think your guests will be too surprised, nor will they think you’re trying to get money from them.
Post # 5
If they’re invited just say No, we decided not to register, we think you’re presence is gift enough and can’t wait to see you on our wedding day!!
Post # 6
I think I’d just respond to the email thanking them for asking and letting them know that you decided not to register anywhere. Just because they’ve asked, I don’t think it means that they expect to be invited to a shower, so I think you’re okay there. I know if I were invited to a wedding and couldn’t find a registry, I’d probably ask someone about it. I might not ask the bride directly, but I’d definitely check in, because I’d want to make sure I bought something that the happy couple wanted.
Post # 7
If I say your presence is gift enough … will they take that as … she told me no gifts? LOL
Post # 8
We didn’t register either. You could always say something like:
‘Cant wait to see you at the wedding’ (so they know they are invited) and maybe something about how it’s going.
And then the part about the gifts. Explain you didn’t register – and if you don’t want gifts then explain that you’re pretty well stocked and just wanted a chance to celebrate with people or if you have a charity you would like people to donate to. Or if you just didn’t want to register but don’t mind gifts just explain you’re reasoning – you like more variety, or whatever the reasoning is.
Post # 9
I’m kind of thinkin of doing this as well. I guess I just think it would be neat to see what people buy without a registry. I like surprises so I’m thinking of not registering. I mean these people have been married; they know what I need better than I do! haha. I never thought about what I would tell people though. I don’t really know what I would say either… sorry this wasn’t much help. Just reassurance that your not alone!
Post # 10
I don’t want it to seem like I’m asking for gifts, but I don’t mind them. I just didn’t register. I don’t even have a reason for not registering.
Post # 11
You could say ‘your presence is gift enough’ and ‘we didn’t register.’ That way, it’s crystal clear that you both appreciate their presence and you’re not being coy about where your registry is located ;-).
Post # 12
So are you just wanting them to give you nothing? Or are you just preferring they write you a check and/or do a cash gift or just 100% surprise you? I guess I don’t get your angle for not registering since you dont have a reason =].
You could always say, “oh well we never got around to registering! And we are easy to please”
Post # 13
__ (insert blah blah blah about how I cannot wait for the wedding … see you blah blah)___
I chose to not register.
Post # 14
That works! Keep it simple…if they want more of an explanation, they’ll come bugging you for one.