(Closed) Oh my husband is going to kill me

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 137
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@deetroitwhat:  Good point. 

Post # 138
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@UpstateCait:  Makes zero sense.  Someone is backpeddling.

Post # 139
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Busy bee

I’m going to go and and ONCE again be the one to say this, and I’m going to be as nice as possible since people on here are frequently trying to label me as the “B”. Alyssa, your ring is beautiful AS IS. You seem to be so concerned with getting a cosignature on everything, but that’s just not going to happen. Lets just recap all of your recent posts in one. NO, you should not push your husband to spend money for pink sapphires you cannot see just for fun. NO you should not change your diamond to a cushion shape, NO you should not trade in a mediocre uncertified diamond for BIGGER mediocre non certified diamond. NO you should not finance a diamond to “Establish credit” -which we ALL find ironic that you would need to because you continue to talk about your $5,000+ dollar ring and your 19 year old husbands “good paying job” honey, unless your husband is a pro athlete or popstar, at 19, there are serious doubts that your idea of “good money” is in line with most of America’s idea of “good money”. Do you own good sturdy working vehicles outright? a home OUTRIGHT? a years worth of savings? Do YOU work and save your money?  If ANY of those answers are no TAKE A SEAT. If the answers are yes, bravo, but just because you CAN do something, doesn’t mean you SHOULD. This economy is changing every day and not always for the better. Perhaps your money would best be spent buying you an education and in celebration of your graduation and good paying job.

If you never touch your ring, and you leave it as is,  it’s more fabulous than a good majority of people’s rings at ANY age. But in the end,  it is still JUST a ring.  Part of the fun of planning a wedding are the material things.. rings, flowers, dresses, but after that weddding is over, its time to start focusing on the marriage. Spend your money on special moments with your husband. Think of things you want to get together and plan those things. For heavens stake, stay away from the jewelry store and ring boards for a while.  Recognize that people on here are not bullying you when they don’t agree with you or use delicate language. They’re trying to save you from going through the heartache that accompanies greed-focused behaviors.  Perhaps by a plain sliver band and wear that around for a couple of days. When you put your bling back on your will appreciate it’s fabulosity!

Post # 143
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@alyssa.christine1:  People have been very respectful.

And just because we aren’t agreeing with you does not mean we are judging you.

You posted on a public message board you cannot expect everyone to tell you exactly what you want to hear.

If you want someone to nod and smile at everything you say, get a bobble head toy.

Anyway, you said you weren’t coming back and you seem to not be willing to take any advice at all. 

I sincerely hope your husband keeps his job and continues to do well, if he doesn’t there is no way you will get the money back on the diamond and you will have to continue to pay it off when you could have kept your ring as it is (and it is beautiful and blingy) and had some money in the bank for a rainy day.

Post # 144
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@blingbling:  Well said. 

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Post # 145
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@blingbling:  Can I hear a round of applause for someone finally putting it all out there?! *claps hands*

I hadn’t bothered to comment just read until now because there just seemed to be no point. Blingbling, you brought me out of the woodwork! lol

Post # 146
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

“If you want someone to nod and smile at everything you say, get a bobble head toy.”

Best quote ever.

On another note, OP if you want to upgrade do it. Why do you need the blessing from an internet board? What are you waiting for? Go upgrade and enjoy!! But if you are looking for the world to agree with you, I am sorry to say you have come to the wrong place. Here on WB you will get real advice from real women. It’s not always going to be butterflies and rainbows, and not everyone is going to or HAS to agree with you.

If it really is bothering you this much, ask a mod to close the thread…..

Post # 148
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Busy bee

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@Luayne:  I know my direct approach isn’t always hug inducing, but I’m ok with that. I’m never. Meaning to do harm but sometimes things need to be said. I truly wish the OP nothing but the best and I will chalk her ignorance up to immaturity.  It’s one thing to be ignorant and want to learn, its a whole ‘nother to refuse an education.  

Post # 149
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@blingbling:  I can’t believe this moment has come but…. I totally agree with you. Take a seat pretty much sums it up for me. 

Post # 150
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@blingbling:  I have said nothing so far on this thread since it was obvious to me that the op came here for only one kind of response and that was not what I was going to give her so…..but I wanted to say i agree with every word you said. I’m just sorry it seems to be wasted since it’s not you high fiving the op in her decision to upgrade an already large enough stone. 

Post # 151
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

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@mixtapehearts:  ummm lol, I have to say the same thing. For once,
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@blingbling:, I agree with you.

And no, this is not a blog. In a blog, you can control what comments appear. This is a public forum. Where everyone can give their opinions – including disagreeing ones.

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