Post # 1
Okay, so the SO and I have been talking marriage (no ring still…darn IRS). However, we both know we want to get married and be pregnant before next year. So today, I actually looked at a calendar. Taking these things into consideration, the date for this wedding has to be far sooner than either of us was thinking…
1. He works five weeks out of the country and then is home for five weeks.
2. I am a teacher and need to find a teaching position in his area.
3. I do not want to be trying to plan a wedding and starting in a new school system at the same time.
4. We do not want to live together before we are married.
Looking at his schedule and school calendars, we need to get married in JUNE!!!
He and I really need to talk!
Post # 3
Why are you so set on getting pregnant and having a baby by next year?
My advice is to slow down and take it easy. Rushing things might be chaotic and you won’t enjoy each moment as it is meant to be if you are rushing so much!
Wait for the ring, then talk weddings and babies 🙂
Post # 5
I understand how hard it is to wait! But, baring any medical conditions, I think it’s going to be really hard starting a new job, teaching especially, while juggling a pregnancy/new baby and it may be better to put that on the back burner for a little while. Planning a wedding in 4 months will be tricky, but probably not impossible as long as you aren’t dead set on certain things and can be flexible. Good luck!
Post # 6
I had a timeline that I wanted…to get married in April of 2011…and for that to happen we probably would have already had to book all of our venues…so that didnt work…and when i realized that its gonna happen…its just a matter of time I just kind of became ok with it…sometimes the timelines that we set for ourself arent really realistic in the real world…are there any medical conditions that you need to get preggers right away?
Post # 7
You are like me, planning everything.LOL I have a lot on my plate too, the same things really, just add in waiting on an answer for my offer on a house!
Tell us if it’s moved up to this year! I totally understand the baby thing. I’m charting now, so yeah.LOL Are you charting?
Post # 8
The baby thing stems from the fortieth birthday occuring this summer as well. My doctor wants me to get going on the trying thing.
@Mama, I am not charting. Still taking birth control right now. Neither one of us wants to get pregnant before the wedding.
I know it all seems like the fast track and it is overwhelming to a degree. You know what though, it’s honestly the job part that makes me the most nervous. The rest is what I’ve wanted forever.
I feel sure that with some help, I can plan a wedding in four months. I have already done enough looking at venues and such to realize that my limited budget will not support the idea I had in my head, so I have rewritten my idea. A nice church wedding with a low-key reception at the church will have us just as married and be a much more responsible plan. After we marry, there will be some expense involved in adding me to his home. Like a new car…
Thanks for listening to me think out loud ladies.
Post # 9
Think you def need to talk to the SO.. its very soon!
Post # 10
Well, when you do stop BC, charting is good.I’m borderline obsessed with looking at my chart. I think I just like being organized and it feeds my organizational need.LMAO
Good luck on everything!!