@FauxPas2012: Lol. I can appreciate what you’re saying. In my previous relationship, I would have been totally content living on the sun porch and him being in the main house!
@sassy411: He has his children every other weekend and several days each week. He definitely knows what he wants and is steady, but open to change and not stodgy And set in his ways. Mosy often he’s the culprit if there is chaos. Always wrestling, joking, racing, tackling, teasing, etc. even when it’s just the two of us. He is so much fun to be around! We snow ski, water ski, hike, kayak, run 5k’s and hopefully a 10k this year, Warrior races, triathlons, etc.
@This Time Round: Yes, both divorced. I was married for 13 years- together with my ex for 18 years. I’ve only been divorced for a year, but we were separated for several years and our divorce took nearly two years to complete. He was married for 10 years, but together for nearly 20. He has been divorced for 7 years. My divorce was a nightmare. His wasn’t. We have discussed marriage and the mistakes we both made, lessons learned, what we would both like in our next marriage.
I have a 17 year old & 15 year old. He has a 15 year old and a 13 year old. All but one is in high school. My oldest has one year before graduation.
@Horseradish: I know that 6 months is definitely fast tracking, but I still have the little “what if” voice that chimes in! He talks about the future far more than I do. His friends bring it up to him, to me, to his family. He is very vocal about our future together. I am the reserved partner!
After talking more in depth about this tonight- his practicality and reasoning prevailed. He wants to give my children time and space. Doesn’t want to buy a large house to accommodate everyone because we plan on moving to a warmer climate upon the last child’s graduation. Buying a double will generate income once we do move in together. It will allow us to be closer. I HEAR him. He makes perfect sense to me, BUT this is definitely not my vision. His plan would be to start ASAP And make this happen by summer. He has already been in touch with the owner of this property Just to discuss. I appreciate him thinking ahead, I really do. Again, I need to adjust my sails because this is not anything I would have previously considered, especially knowing it will be several years before we are together full time instead of just neighbors lol.