Holy hanna, long night. I just want this drama so trying to simmer down and not let this bother me. We were up until 5 am and since I am an early morning riser, I am awake now. Tired as hell.
We went over girls he dated, timelines. To me, this is an integrity issue. Like ,can I trust FI? We have known each other five years almost, dated for 2.5 years. So as soon as we both admitted a crush and went on a few dates ,we got in a committed relationship right away (decided not to see other people)because we just didn’t want to.
I don’t know if the gf knows anything or not. Last night Fiance told me he dated four girls before me, which he told me before he didn’ t date anyone from his divorce to me..and I don’t care who he dated before me, it is just he made a big deal out of it , saying how I was his first anything since the divorce.
Whether he said that to make me feel special or not, who knows.
Fiance is denying having any other girls while we were dating BUT, he says who knows he may have been talking silly when they went for lunch…he may have made up some stuff, but it isn’t true.
This friend has known Fiance for many years, I have interacted with the friend and he has never said anything else rude or mean…Fiance says this was his failed attempt at humour (he can be pretty funny at times!) so the friend was just ribbing him, trying t oget a rise out of me….nothing more.
One point I had is that, Fiance was there and the comment was inappropriate and Fiance was trying to argue the timeline, but not the facts. He also didn’t tell the friend to stop…it was the Girlfriend and the hostess who sensed the awkwardness and tried to change the subject because he kept pressing.
Regardless, do I trust FI? Sure. Do I have a little inkling of a doubt that there may be some truth to this story? Yes.
And that is what is bugging me. Isaid to Fiance that I have always trusted him..I never check his phone, PC, nothing. I have loved him wholeheartedly and openly adn never had a doubt in my mind that he was faithful .
How do you undo what you heard and get rid of that doubt? Why would someone say this right before we are getting married and be such a DB about it?
There is also another part of me that says “Friend is just jealous….getting out of a marriage, his wife cheated on him and he does have a new gf, but maybe he is just bitter”.
At this point, I am just mad, blazing mad at the friend for saying something so inappropriate. I told Fiance how would he like it if one of my good friends started making suggestions and arguing with me in front of him about how I dated this guy or that guy while we were an item? This sort of “humour” is just not funny, and if his intention was to stir the pot, raise shit and cause an argument between Fiance and I, this ruining our evening, he did a fantastic job. Im not sure what to do now to settle this or put my mind at ease. Its just trusting Fiance he is telling the truth, Iguess.