(Closed) oh no he hates my dress

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

8714 does not look frumpy…at all!!!

and if you really feel bad about it you could try to find a different used/preowned dress… to save money ya know…


Post # 4
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry!  Something very similar happened with my Darling Husband and I… he doesn’t like lace either and I do, so it was a tough decision.  The allure gown is very pretty and I think once the day is here, with all the emotion that goes along with it, and he sees you, he won’t be thinking about lace or satin or anything else.

Is it possible to have them make some changes to the dress?  Like making it more A-line or  more similar to the one he does like?  (What is the one he likes?)

Post # 5
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

The dress you’re having made is BEAUTIFUL.

Do you love it?

He shouldn’t care what you are wearing on the day…he will be too wrapped up in marrying you!

But you need to feel good about yourself and if those “princess” gowns aren’t your style anymore, don’t get one!

Wear what makes you feel good!

Post # 6
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just took a look at that dress, it is NOT frumpy at all. When he sees the finished product on you, he will love it. If you love it, you will be radiant in it, and that is what he will see. Don’t worry about it.

Post # 7
425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

aww wlike all the bees said, on that day, his concentration would be on you- the woman hell be marrying, not the dress the woman hell be marrying is wearing.. hahaha, it comes down to how you feel.. if u feel like u wanna change the dress because he thinks its ugly, then go for it, but just as long as u feel that is something you are willing to do — to find something you bth love. Or keep this one if you trully love it and hell accept it. Hes not wearing it, so he wont care. and guys arent like girls btw- you might care what ur Fiance is wearing on his wedding day because we have this thing with perfection and- orginization, and yada yada.. if it was up to the man, hed just go in with his boxers if he had to.. ( LOL) but,  he wont really make it a big deal when he sees it on you. With your make up, accessories, and hair done- ur gonna look fantastic.


Just do what makes you feel good <3


Post # 8
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012


I think this dress is absolutley gorgeous and will definatley show off your curves.   

Post # 9
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

i think this dress is beautiful!!

Post # 10
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh, dear, I can see how this must have pulled the rug out from under you. If your design has the portrait neckline like the Allure, and the fitted skirt, then Honey, your Fiance is going to love your curves in this dress! You are really going to show them off. 🙂 And the sleeves are so classy! My guess is that he can’t totally picture what this dress is going to look like on you. From one 40+ bride to another, my Fiance is terrible about choosing styles of clothing for me. In the 12+ years that we’ve been together he has never gotten it right. LOL. My advice to you is go with a design that works for your body shape and taste, because you really do know what works and what doesn’t.

If his dislike has totally ruined this dress for you: how far into the process is the dress making at this point? I see that you are 11 months away from your wedding date, so is it possible to talk to the seamstress to see what kind of changes can be made to the design to accomodate his tastes?

Personally, I think the dress style you’ve picked is a winner. In fact, I looked at it and thought, “Hmm, I could see myself wearing this! It’s beautiful!” I think the style offers many complimentary features.

Good luck with your decision.


Post # 11
2052 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@LauraBenbow71: So he hasn’t see the actual design of the dress? He just kinda knows the direction your going for it? And he hasn’t seen the dress on you yet? If he hasn’t seen you in the dress, then how can he presume it is not “you” enough and that you will look frumpy in it?

Tell him you love him, but his assessment is inaccurate and that he needs to trust you (there’s that word again) that you’ve made the best decision for you, for your taste and body. If you love it, then clearly you are listening to yourself and what you love. Your dress is STUNNING and so very classic. He’ll just have to wait and be patient for you to knock his socks off that day.



Post # 12
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What Cornflakegirl said!

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