(Closed) Oh no! Help me Bees!! My FI Is up to no good!!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

wow. Well. Follow your gut. If you think he’s up to no good, he probably is. Confront him. Over 2,000 texts is a lot. Especially if you’ve had this problem before. That’s crazy. If I had given him that many chances and he still was doing this, I’d be done. But that’s just me.

Post # 5
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You need to confront him. This rings to me like he was looking to get caught. I mean, you’re both on the same cell phone plan and watching your minutes, so clearly he knew you were going to see it. And if you’ve caught him doing this exact thing multiple times, I think you need to evaluate if that’s something you’re okay with or not. I wouldn’t be okay with Darling Husband texting some random girl he met in a bar, there’s nothing “harmless” about that to me.

Post # 6
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Talk to your Fiance and see what he says, but I would probably call off the engagement. I wouldn’t stalk the girl, though, she might not even know he’s engaged and you’ll just freak her out.

Post # 7
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t believe in this “harmless flirty texts”. That right there would have been a deal breaker for me.

I think you should ask him honestly. Just tell him you saw the number and you want to know whats up.

Post # 8
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1222 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you need to talk to your Fiance. Stalking this girl is not going to do you any good.

And I really don’t think you should be putting her name and number on a world-wide forum like this.

Post # 9
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should confront him directly and asap

Post # 10
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14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I hope you don’t really think stalking the girl is an option…

Confront him and dump him.

Post # 11
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426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

First of all, sorry this is happening to you. But before you go “crazy” on some girl named Jaime I think you need to stop this at the source….your Fiance. This happened when you were dating, and it’s happening now that you’re engaged. Do you want to risk it when you’re married and can’t go everywhere with him because you’re pregnant and/or have babies, or like, a life besides babysitting him at the bar? I think you need to go home and sit down and discuss this with him. Some men are addicted to feeling wanted/needed by other women, and even if this is just a textual relationship can you handle that? I’m assuming not. Calling this girl isn’t going to stop your Fiance from thinking this okay, and it’s not going to fix what’s wrong here. I’d recommend counseling, but honestly, I’d also recommend you really spending some time thinking about whether or not you want to be engaged to/planning a wedding with someone who would do this to you. There’s a lot of great men out there, and not all of them will hurt you like this.

 

 

Post # 13
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Don’t sneak around. Be upfront and tell him what you did. Ask for answers.

Post # 14
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194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I, like some other bees, believe you should contront him about the texts…just casually bring it up like ‘wow babe, you sure did text alot last month…I only used 400 and I text all the time, but you used over 2000!’..just to see what he’ll say. Then after that I’d go ahead and mention that you called the number and it was Jamie. I wouldn’t put up with that – AT ALL. If this has happened a few times in the past with the same girl, i’d honestly be done with him.  He thinks he can get away with it because you’ve forgiven him every single time.  He thinks you will believe anything he says. Thats why he continues to do it. I’d wipe my hands clean of this guy. Let ‘jamie’ have him. He’s obviously never going to change.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i woudl skip the stalking her on facebook part, but i would confront him and it couldnt hurt to put in a phone call to her as well, let her know that yes we are still dating and 2 we are engaged. hopefully that will at least give her perspective into what she is getting herself into. I would FLIP if this was my fiance. in no way shape or form is texting anothe girl ok with me..especially as much as he seems to be doing it. I would seriously take a step back and look at the relationship you are getting into. he has done it before and will probably do it again. Doesnt sound like he is quite man enough to take on the commitment of a marriage. Good luck! and keep us updated, we are  here for support! 🙂

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