(Closed) Oh no, I invited some coworkers. Now what?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No advice but I kind of had the same situation, although I work on a hospital floor and I work with other nurses and patient care technicians and we all work different shifts so there’s a lot of people.  I was definitely unable to invite everyone, even all the people who work the night shift with me, so I invited only the co-workers that I talked to the most at work and talked to outside of work.

My job ended up throwing me a shower and I feel awful because I feel like I should have invited all the people who came to my work shower, but I couldn’t afford it.  So unfortunuately I have no advice, but I know how you feel.  It sucks.

Post # 4
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I really wouldn’t worry about it. You are inviting these people because they are your coworkers and your friends. 

Post # 5
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s OK to only invite the people you’re close to. People understand that not everyone can be invited.

Post # 6
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@atlbride2013:  I know a lot of people are down on B-listing… but if you get enough RSVP “no”s, can you invite the other coworkers?

Post # 7
3267 posts
Sugar bee

it’s fine. honestly, doubt they will be crying themselves to sleep becuase they get invited to a wedding of someone they’ve worked with for 8 months.

Post # 8
1159 posts
Bumble bee


I think you shouldn’t feel bad. I think you really should only invite those people you would continue to talk to if you no longer worked there.

I was invited to a wedding of a co worker once and i was quite shocked that i was invited. I wasn’t close to her at all. I haven’t spoken/seen her since the wedding.

Post # 9
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t feel bad.  I only invited 2 co-workers and their spouses, Darling Husband didn’t invite any.  We decided to only invite colleagues that we socialize with outside the office, and I think that’s perfectly understandable.

Post # 10
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

This is why we English have the advantage… we invite most of our co-workers to the after party, but nothing else, and we only invite our friends to the whole day!

Obviously, some co-workers come to the whole day and some just come in the evening, but it seems to work out most of the time, regardless!

Post # 11
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

y thoughts are the same, if you get any declines, then add your other co-workers.  They will understand… it is expensive to have a wedding…. and if it arizes, why not invite them to the dance after the meal?  Just a thought.

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