(Closed) Oh no, I think he got a diamond, and I don't want a diamond!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

How does this friend know its a diamond? 

Post # 4
3429 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LilliePad:  There’s too many unknowns right now to give concrete advice to you. I wouldn’t say anything yet. maybe the friend is wrong. just wait til he proposes first. 

Post # 5
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I would wait until he actually proposes to you.  You won’t know the specs for sure until then.  Relax, and then get excited that it’s going to happen soon! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
69 posts
Worker bee

Well I guess all you can do is wait! It might even be a conflict free diamond for all you know! He might of wanted the best for you that’s all , I’m not even engaged so I’m not sure what to say! But I would wait , I’m sorry you feel down about it , but honestly just wait for the ring! Im sure if he listened to you he knew you wouldn’t want a diamond for those reasons and would of made sure he didn’t do that! Don’t worry! <3

Post # 7
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Maybe he didn’t correct her and she didn’t know any better about it being an non-diamond.  He may not want people to think he cheaped out when he was really being financially responsible by buying a stone he could afford rather than going into debt on a diamond.

Post # 9
12023 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

don’t say anything.  Maybe he told the friend it’s a diamond, maybe she saw it and assumed because she couldn’t tell the difference.  You said you didn’t care if people didn’t know it wasn’t a diamond so maybe he didn’t tell her the difference.  Wait and see.  Maybe it’s a white sapphire?  Who knows.  Like the PP said, there are too many unknowns for you to worry at the moment!

be excited he has the ring ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 10
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@LilliePad:  Well I would try to wait until he proposes. I know it’ll be difficult, but you don’t want to spoil it for him.

Unless he’s lost all sense of reason, he likely got a ring that isn’t going to be a house budget breaker. Perhaps a smaller diamond. It’s also more difficult than you’d think to get a conflict diamond. Any reputable diamond store gets diamonds from legit sources. Kimberley Process etc.

Would you be upset if he got you a small(ish) diamond?

If he did splash out and buy you a 10K diamond ring, I think you have every right to get (tactfully) angry if it does indeed affect the house buying process.

Maybe it’s a family heirloom?

Maybe it is an asha.

You just don’t know. Try to put it out of your head.

Post # 11
2604 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@LilliePad:  First, your “friend” is a disgusting blabbermouth.  Seriously.  Its awful and horribly selfish that she gave away your future FI’s surprise!  She should maybe be cut loose.  Or at least never, ever trusted with secrets in the future.

Have you considered that she’s just wrong about the stone?  Your Fiance could have very well told her or allowed her to believe it was a diamond or she just assumed it was. 

Even if it is a diamond, I vote you accept his choice in the spirit in which its being offered to you.  A ring is a gift and one of love at that.  Rejecting it would be very hurtful to your Fiance and frankly, he has a right to expect some say in the ring since he’s the one buying it for you as a symbol of your mutual engagement.

Post # 12
4520 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If he got you a diamond, he got you a diamond. I understand your thinking completely, but ultimately the ring is a gift from him to you. 

Post # 13
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@Zhabeego:  Agree, on the friend….not cool to ruin the surprise and then start you worrying about the stone.  Maybe she thought she was helping you out, but still not cool.  ๐Ÿ™

Post # 14
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’d be willing to put money on him passing it off as a diamond ;). Don’t worry about it! Guys are under a lot of scrutiny when it comes to purchasing an engagement ring.

Post # 15
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You should check out the other ring thread about a Bee not loving her ring and telling her Fiance so when he asked her honest opinion.  A lot of bees on that thread felt that she should just accept whatever ring she was given because it’s a gift regardless of previous discussions the couple had together and what they agreed upon together.  You might find it helpful.


Post # 16
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

he probably just didn’t tell her it wasn’t a diamond. I don’t think you should be thinking of any of this until you know for sure.

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