Post # 1
Help! Ok, I’m running out of time to find a dress if I want to order a new one from a shop, my wedding is just over 7 months away and I’m starting to feel the pressure. After a couple of dress shopping outings this week I have a couple of dresses I really like for different reasons and both have pros and cons. I’m looking for something that shows off my figure (the only thing my fiance requested as I’m terrible for wearing baggy clothes), is timeless, elegant and classic but with just a little ‘something’ that stops it being plain.
Would love to hear people’s honest thoughts on the dresses I’ve posted below and if you think I should get one of them or go for one of the other options I’ve listed. Because I’m quite slim all my mum and bridesmaids keep saying is that I look lovely in every dress, which is nice, but doesn’t help me pick a dress, so any critiques would actually be very very welcome 🙂
Pros: Instantly loved it. Gorgeous subtle embroidery. Lovely shape and like how the pleated section emphasizes my waist. Very simple, classic and girly.
Cons: Doesn’t have a train, which was one of the things I wanted.
Pros: Really like the fit of this one. Love the waterfall ripple down one side of the skirt. Again quite simple and classic, but maybe more sophisticated than girly. Has a train, albeit a very plain one.
Cons: Didn’t have the instant connection with this one as dress 1, but definitely has grown on me. Doesn’t have the lovely emboidery. Would the ‘bandage’ pleating look very dated when looking back at my photos in the future?
Having just arrived home Fi’s just told me that someone he works with has recommended to him someone who made her wedding dress and that of 2 of her friends. Apparently very very good, can do lovely embroidery etc and wouldn’t cost much more than the dresses posted above (probably very similar to them when taking into account alterations).
Thank you so much everyone!
Post # 3
I prefer dress #2….. It’s very very flattering on you!!
Post # 4
They are both pretty, but #2, although flattering and different, has an awful lot of ruching. It doesn’t look very comfortable . . .
Post # 5
I picked dress #2. Both dresses are flattering, but this is even more flattering.
I wouldn’t worry about the lack of features – you could probably add some. For example, adding crystals or beads down the lines of the pleats on the bodice would be nice. And I don’t think the bandage pleating would look too dated, even though it is pretty much a 2000s-2010s thing.
If you really like dress #1 – and I suspect that might be more your personal style – then I would suggest converting the top to a sweetheart neckline, which you should be able to do. That would be more flattering to your boobs.
Post # 8
As I feel obligated to point out anytime I comment on something like this, I am a guy, and therefore my opinions may be safely discounted without fear of offense.
Dress #2 is far more flattering.
It emphasizes your figure, particularly in your hips; makes for a much nicer curve than dress #1.
Usually, honestly, I hate this style of dress (dress #2,) simply because I have a weird thing about symmetry, but – again with the hip thing – the WAY this one is asymmetrical draws attention to your curves, rather than to the dress.
If it’s at all comfortable, that’s the one.
I don’t think it will look dated in later life; granted the style is kind of a fad, but that doesn’t mean anything. The dress itself looks great on you, and that’s the part anyone will see looking at your photos
Post # 9
Thanks for all your replies and votes! Both seemed comfy when trying on, though granted neither were my size. Both lace up backs so can be tightened/loosened as needed on the day.
Quite a lot of people have voted for keeping shopping/other. Would be interested if anyone minded expanding – do you think I just haven’t found ‘the one’ yet, dislike both the dresses, think a different style would suit me better?
Thanks again 🙂
Post # 10
I think dress 2 has a little something extra that makes it stand out. Personally, I think dress 1 just looks kind of plain, and would need some serious bling to rival dress 2!
Post # 11
I personally like dress #2 better but I would continue shopping. You have an awesome figure! Maybe try a different silhouette? I would suggest a dropped A-line or a fit and flare for your figure too.. just to mix it up a bit!
Post # 12
I don’t like number 1 at all. Its just your typical “eh” dress. looks like every other wedding dress. you have a nice figure. You can for sure find something better.
I like number 2. it compliments your figure. I think its very classic.
Post # 14
Dress two definitely shows your figure more – I think maybe the neckline on #1 isn’t as flattering as it could be. Gotta have a train girl!!
Post # 15
@RainbowHope: I voted to look into having a dress made. I do like dress #2 better, but the straight across neckline just isn’t flattering. A sweetheart would be much more so.
Post # 16
Thanks again everyone for your input! Just thought I’d post an update with what I’m thinking at the moment. I’m swaying towards dress 2 but having some slight alterations done on it (it’s £575 which is ‘cheap’ for a wedding dress in the UK – half my budget, and I might be borrowing my Maid/Matron of Honor veil as my ‘something borrowed’, so have some spare money for extra alterations). Will ask if it’s possible to have a slight dip in the neckline, not quite full sweetheart, but something so it’s a little bit shaped, and maybe see if I can ask the dressmaker to put some embroidery on the train just to satisfy that little voice inside of me that wanted some embroidery 🙂
I think when I have it in the correct size it will be much more flattering – the shop didn’t clip it at the bum at all, so I think in real life it’ll be tighter round my hips, and I like that it’s just slightly drapped fabric below my hips, not carrying on with the pleating, as dresses with a dropped waist in that style that I’ve tried on in the past emphasize my slight pear shape 🙂
Thanks to everyone who voted, made me much more secure with my decision – particularly as I had less flattering photos of dress 2.