(Closed) Oh no they didn’t…..

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Okay, here is what to do.

1.) Stop freaking out. You’re stressing yourself out and apparently that’s definitely not needed right now. The more you worry, the more upset you get so just stop.

2.) If you knew your aunt had a drinking problem and was selfish, why one Earth did you let her handle things? Again, stop freaking out and just go with the flow. Your wedding is in like 2 1/2 weeks so there really isn’t a ton you could now. Why not try to put YOUR personal toouches on it without letting your aunt know?

3.) A bachelorette party is NO BIG DEAL! It’s not the end of the world. I know it’s just the principal of you having to plan your own, but there are worse things that could happpen.

4.) Tell your Fiance to chill out, too. You guys are WAY too worried about this. It’s JUST a wedding and the only part that really, honestly matters when it comes down to it is that you 2 are married and in love!

5.) Why can’t you just go and elope? I don’t understand why you would face the death penalty? Everyone else is pissing you off, why be afraid to do actually do what you want if no one else will listen to what you want?

6.) Next year, for your anniversary have a PERFECT WEDDING! You guys take a vacation somewhere and renew your vows on the beach, just as you had originially wanted! Or do whatever else you want to do! If this wedding turns out to be as awful as you think it’s going to be, plan a better one as soon as you can.

7.) Go get a massage and RELAX. Don’t think about the wedding, your aunt, your sister, nothing. You need it.


GOOD LUCK with everything, I hope it all works out!

Post # 4
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@JM1217: She said it way better than I could

Post # 4
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow,sucks. Any way for u two to take back control???? Its your wedding, not theirs. If u have given them jobs to do,take back the jobs and do them yourself.

This is y I dont plan on giving hardly anybody anything to do.

I think the key for u is,STOP ASKING THEM FOR HELP. U know what they are like, dont give them a chance. Stop giving them choices in your wedding. Stop putting them in cgarge of these. Everytime u do, its another chance for them to do what THEY want.

Oh and if your aunt interrupts u again, interrupt HER and tell her its rude to interrupt. And if she doesnt get the hint, then u keep on interrupting her.

Hope it all works out for u!

Post # 5
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Scrap what I just said.I didnt read the part that your wedding is in a couple weeks. I would just go with the flow. With that little time theres not much that can be changed.

And in the future, if u dont want them to take charge of whatever, dont put them in charge. Some people are just like that. They are given a job and they take it over.

Post # 9
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

relax hunny… once the day comes it wont even matter if you have it catered, dont have a beach theme and your aunt picked out all the decorations. From what you said, it seems those things dont mean anything to you anyway so why stress out over them? Let your aunt and sister do their thing. Come the wedding day, you will turn the corner, see your fiance – the man you love – and everything else in the world will disappear! You will have a blast because you get to marry the man of your dreams and that is all that matters. All of this will be trivial..

PS – I am not having a batchelorette party either. Its okay.. I still get to marry my bestfriend and fiance. Same as you. :o)

Post # 10
2701 posts
Sugar bee

@JM1217: EVERYTHING she said. Wow, a lot of time and effort went into that thoughtful post. Amazing advice.

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