- 7 years ago
I am engaged to a wonderful man. He is the man of my dreams. I can’t even begin to express my love for him. I am sure all or most women here feel the same way!
My concern is our family. Which I am positive some of you have experienced something like this.
My family is taking over our wedding. I even told my Aunt at one point yesterday, “All this is for is for the family, me and Cody don’t even want to do this. If it were up to us we would…….. ” Just got trampled by inturruption.
Let me esplain….. My mother and I do not speak. My sister is on the verge of being disowned by me. My father is passive and they are all lazy and selfish.
I was struggling with finding a venue for our wedding. My sister says to me that I can use her back yard. She was the maid of honor. Then one day my parents just up and leave to Texas. Not even a phone call to me to say good bye.
My sister is co dependant to my parents. So as soon as they left my sister flips out. She has to care and tend to my little brother. As they left him to finish school.
well i was begining to suspect that she was getting stressed out. So I was getting crap from my Aunt about having it at my sisters house. “Are you sure thats what you want?” after 4 times of asking me, I said,”It’s sounding like YOU don’t want me to have it there”. well I called my sister that day and she flips out on me over the phone.
Tells me that she doesnt have time for my wedding. She is a photographer. She told me that she has weddings to do and photos to edit and she just cant handle it and tossed her position at me. Resigned.
Immidiatley I call one of my friends and got that covered.
Main problem is my Aunt and Sister. Every one in our family has given us grief one fashion or another. My fiance and I are so stressed about this. My aunt has a problem with drinking and the invites were late. I just simply asked her to make invites. gave her some ideas and asked her to use her artistic touch. _they came out wonderful_ but she kept asking me questions over and over because she always forgets!
any thing that my fiance and i talk to her about, she is consistantly inturrupting us. I was used to it but he was getting upset about it. Yesterday he wasnt having a good day because of this crap. My aunt is running the wedding and we have no control. Why does this happen!?
She claims its supposed to be a special day and it will be fun. but for who!? her?
I am upset because we wanted this to be as cost effective as possible. They have $ so they are getting catering and tables and chairs and she wants an arbor and a pathway. It’s not me. I don’t care to have that crap. The ceremony is the sand ceremony I wanted a beach theme so it would be cheaper and i love the ocean.
There is no talking with them. We have had to come to the agreement that we will still have a good time. I hate this. I am mad!! I even told her I just didn’t want to do it and she didn’t even HEAR ME!!!
My sister was getting carried away with this. Every one is asking me for details and saying how stressed they all are. WHAT THE HECK ABOUT US!?! DOES ANY ONE GIVE A FLIP ABOUT US AND HOW WE FEEL????
I have to plan my own bach party. I am having to plan my husbands bach party too. because no one gives a crap about us. I am doing it in secret so he wont feel bad. he does already. this wedding is completly crap. I love my fiance. I love him so much. we just have to play dummies. we will have fun and thats all that matters. I am so sick of this wedding. I am sick of women who think this day should be ALL ABOUT THEM!! Weddings are stupid! I swear. why ???????
Self absorbtion thats why. My fiance is telling me” all the guys at work say its all about the bride” I DO NOT WISH FOR THE WHOLE DAY TO BE ABOUT ME. ITS US NOT ME. No one cares!
society sucks. Society says its ok to prance around like a stupid 12 year old princess at age 20-30. Have everyone stare for a few minutes at us and ME ME ME ME me. its so pointless! i would rather be happier eloping. And i cant even do that!
this whole wedding is just an expensive show. I am happier knowing its almost over.
My family sucks. they cant keep their own wishes to themselves and let us enjoy this time.
I am stressed and I am sorry to upset anyone But i have no ONE to vent to. NO ONE. i cant bring this up to my fiance because i am trying to scrape him off the ceiling. I’ve already had a panic attack. My aunt is running the show and i want it simple she wants it nice for us. but MY PLANS WERE NICE. and simple and cheap. I wanted to be one of those stories that had a wedding under 500$ It was a goal. I know I am crafty. I made the pillow for the ring bearer. I made a lot of things for the wedding. and she wants to change it all. GD it!!!!!
my sister is selfish and now that i asked her to help me with my bach party she wants to run that too.
Look The decor was simple. Lanterns, seashells, sand, sandwiches and tea water and juice. champagne and some chill music with some twinkle lights in a back yard. what the heck is so complicated here??
I believe that other people are having a hard time accepting that I do not want to be bombarded with attention. It’s not what were about.
I am rambling now because I just cant talk to any one. I cant talk to my friends or my aunt or even my sister. everything gets turned around to them. Im frustrated and so is my fiance. worst idea ever. Lets get the family together. I have a step daughter now and i just know if we eloped we would face the death penalty. every one is expecting me to do things i dont want to do. its stupid. I hope there is someone out here on this blog that can relate to this.
we just have to suck it up. on our honey moon, MY PHONE WILL BE OFF I NEED A VACATION!!!!
P.s. He is getting crap too from his family. I cant talk to my friends because they are all going through marital problems. I FUGGIN HATE THIS