Post # 1
Soooo I just made all the labels for our invites and we are inviting 172 people. Our venue limit is 140 and the planner at our venue said they could accomodate a bit more than that but didn’t give me exact numbers.
Now, this 172 does include “imaginary” people (plus ones) for all our single friends and includes children and babies.
Without the “imaginary” plus one’s the number is at 157 and 30 of those are kids under 12.
I should also add that ours is a psuedo-destination wedding and about 50 – 60% of these guests will need to travel more than 700 miles to get to it.
So I’m not going to go over the 140 number right??? The logical side of my brain is saying shut up and quit worrying and the irrational side is freaking out that I’m so far over our guest limit!!!
Post # 3
You should be totally, completely, and utterly fine.
Post # 4
@girlwiththeredhair: I wouldn’t worry. There’s a much lower rsvp rate when it’s a Destination Wedding. The average is 20% when not a Destination Wedding.
Post # 5
I don’t know, I know a certain percentage is expected to RSVP “no”… but if I were in your place, I’d cut the imaginary plus ones and if people ask, give them permission if there’s room. 🙁
ETA – whoops, I missed the part where the venue could accomodate more… I was thinking fire code violations, etc. Then I guess you’re OK as long as you’re OK with a little bit of extra $$ if there’s more than 140..
Post # 6
I’ve heard statistics that about 20-25% of the people that you invite for a non-destination wedding will not come. I’ve gotten back about half of my RSVP’s so far and we are right on track (20% of the replies have been declines). I would assume that this number would be larger for a destination wedding.
But lets assume that you do have 20% of the people you invite decline (as a worst case scenario). 172*0.8 = 137 people will be in attendance.
I think you should be fine.
Post # 7
There’s no way you’ll go over… especially if travel is involved… don’t worry about it.
Post # 8
You will be fine with it being a Destination Wedding. However don’t come looking for me to beat if they all RSVP yes : D
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You should be fine, but some ways to cut would be not to invite random +1s (as in not the SO in a significant relationship) unless the guest will know absolutely no one but you and the couple or to wait and see how it plays out and hire sitter for all children under a certain age, order some pizza, and hole them up somewhere after the ceremony.
Post # 10
@mrsSonthebeach: That’s a good tip about the kids and a possible babysitter!! I feel bad not inviting the plus one’s since it IS a psuedo-destination wedding and I feel like if they want to bring a date they should be able to.. That being said, since it’s not a place someone could go just for the wedding, it would have to be someone they are serious enough with to spend the whole weekend together so I’m guessing most of them WON’T bring plus one’s. It’s important to me to extend the offer, though!
Post # 11
Post # 12
@TxsAggieBride: That’s very true. Hopefully the 20% rule holds true. I really think it will. I know it’s terrible to say that I won’t be sad if lots RSVP no, but I won’t be. Lol
Post # 13
you are totally fine! no worries 😀
Post # 14
It can actually even be 30% who RSVP no- in my experience that’s more likely… and with travel, it could be even more. Depends on location and season too. 🙂 Good luck!