Post # 1
So Bees, I woke up this morning after a few days in a waiting funk and I decided today wouldn’t be the day I got upset about “waiting”. I said to myself that me being in a funk about it won’t change anything and packed myself off on my merry way to work.
I got into work and did my usual facebook check in, la -de-da… and then I saw it. My SO’s BEST FRIEND in the world has announced his engagement. Or more specifically has changed his relationship status to “engaged.”
My heart dropped and I slid back into the funk. I don’t know why it bothered me so much, he isn’t my best friend. It doesn’t change our waiting status etc. But it still bugged me, someone else who got there first!? I let it go and when my SO called for our usual mid-morning, how’s your day going chat, I causually mention it, assuming he would by now know. Apparently my SO’s best friend hadn’t told him?!!
After our conversation I didn’t think anything more of it and just spend the rest of the day switching between working and letting another engagement annoy me irrationally. I dragged myself home and was ready to slump into bed and feel sorry for myself. again!
However, before I am able to even let SO know something is bothering me, I notice he’s not his usual self. After a few questions and minutes ticking by, the penny drops. He’s in a funk! My SO NEVER gets into a funk, I’ve seen him like that maybe twice in our 2.5 year relationship. I get an idea of why he’s in a funk but don’t give anything away. Instead I treat him like I like to be treated in a funk, I cook, run him a bath an tell him to get into bed and watch a DVD.
Of I went la-de-da again and about 10 minutes later he says, “Why didn’t *his friend* tell me he was engaged?! What’s that about!?” I wasn’t facing him when he said this but I smiled to myself. I acted the innocent and said, “Oh. is that whats bothering you??”
He admitted that it was, and I said I didn’t think it was something that a man would get upset about but bless his cute butt he was! I KNOW this doesn’t mean anything about where we are or how long he’ll take to propose to me, but there was something so touching about him being in a funk about something I get in a funk about ALL THE TIME!
Just thought I’d share!
Post # 3
Your SO sounds so sweet! Not many men would be upset by something like that, but I think it shows what a good heart he must have and how much he values his relationships, especially yours. Sounds like you got yourself a keeper! I’m sure a proposal for you isn’t far behind . . . maybe his friend’s engagement will be a nice push in the right direction for him. ^_^
Post # 4
I’m a little confused was he upset that his friend got engaged or because he didn’t tell him?
Post # 5
It’d be upset if my best friend got engaged and didn’t tell me too. 🙁 Poor guy!
Post # 6
picturemeurs – It was because his friend had got engaged and hadn’t told him first. They’ve been friends since they were 4. (he’s 29 now) so I think he just assumed he’d be one of the first to find out. They spoke on Saturday and his friends said nothing about it, so I think he was shocked more than anything.
maeby – My SO is very sweet guy. I’m proud of the fact that he wears his heart on his sleeve. He’s a rugby player so he’s a very manly man, but when it comes to our relationship he’s my best friend and a big softy! I hope his friend’s engagement is a push in the right direction. SO previously said we are “next” in the next 4-6 months. But he gives nothing away. Not even about rings, so I have nothing to chew on to keep the supsense at bay!
Post # 7
@WaitingweddingBE: Oh, well that’s strange, I’d be very upset too. But at least you got to see that side of him, and see how important the process of engagement and marriage is to him.
Post # 8
picturemeurs “ But at least you got to see that side of him, and see how important the process of engagement and marriage is to him.”
I took some comfort in knowing that it bothered him. I didn’t know why since, as I say ,it doesn’t mean we’re any closer to ending the “wait” but yes you put it very clearly. I guess it is all important to him
Post # 9
Is his bestfriend really engaged though? Because I’ve seen it happy when people change their facebook status either by mistake or as a prank or someone else hacks into their account and does that. I dont really trust facebooks statuses as being up to date and reliable in the least!
Post # 10
Bells- I know exactly what you mean and I’ve seen it done when someone’s prank “engaged” themselves or others, but its legit. There was a whole 20 person thread of comments incl. from the Bride and Groom to-be talking about it.
My theory is that it was a spontatious proposal, which means he wouldn’t have prepared anything for it, hence why he didn’t mention it. I don’t think he didn’t tell my SO spitfully. I’m sure as the days roll by the information about it all will come out.
Post # 12
Aww. Your poor SO. That’d upset me too!