Post # 1
I have been with my SO for about five years now, and I wonder when my family will finally get that he’s not going anywhere. I finally thought they were considering he apart of the family, and geniunely liked him.
Then Today I was talking to my Father about buying a new washer for SO’s, and my apartment. He said “Don’t buy a new one. You never know what could happen. You two have been together a long time but you could break up.”. He was kind of joking when he said it but I was pretty annoyed by it. I tried to not let it bother me.
Then my Father immediately wanted to talk about my brother’s upcoming wedding to the girl he has been dating 1 year…. for a full hour. Gah!
Post # 3
What!!? That would tick me off! Even if he was joking..you don’t say things like that!! Try not to let it bother you girl!!
Post # 4
Seriously??? That is seriously messed up if your Dad is saying that about your relationship but all gung ho about your brother’s wedding to someone he has dated a year. Is there some bad blood between him and your Dad? Or are you the only daughter? Maybe he just doesn’t want to face “losing” his baby girl. But yeah, that would seriously piss me off!
Post # 5
No there is no bad blood between them, I swear. I even thought they were starting to get close. My boyfriend is currently fixing his computer for him, free of charge of course. I am the only girl, and the youngest child. Maybe he doesn’t want me to grow up, and make it official.
Post # 6
Wow, that would really offend me if my dad said that (He has said similar things before and I got really upset). I’m glad you’re not letting it bother you.
And, I can totally relate about being the youngest child and your parents not believing that yes, in fact, you are a grown up now.
Post # 7
My parents took a REALLY long time to get used to the idea of my SO. I think it’s because I was their oldest and they couldn’t get out of their heads the idea of me being their baby…that was until my little sisters Boyfriend or Best Friend came on the scene. My dad hated him with a PASSION and then my SO was the best thing since sliced bread 🙂
Post # 8
I wouldn’t take any notice of it, perhaps it is their way to say “you should be the one getting married” – it sucks but I’m sure they are not saying these things to hurt you, just a reminder they want you to get married too! 🙂
Post # 9
Some people don’t understand how two people can be together for that long without getting married and still be in a happy relationship. Everyone goes at their own pace- I personally can’t understand people who get engaged within the first year of dating because I wanted more time to develop our relationship, but those same people could turn around and say “But why didn’t you just ‘know’? We did”
What I’m saying is, your dad is probably of the mindset that until your SO proposes and you get married, you technically *could* break up, and that it’s weird you’re not engaged after all this time. It doesn’t mean either of you want to break up, but he probably doesn’t see it as a fully serious commitment b/c SO hasn’t proposed yet.