(Closed) Oh the waiting games

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Do you think "signs" actually indicate something?
    Absolutely : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Perhaps, depends on the situation though : (13 votes)
    41 %
    No, when a person obsesses they start seeing signs everywhere : (15 votes)
    47 %
    Other - explain below : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Some signs are just signs of our obsession.  Some signs are signs he’s thinking about the relationship (and maybe, even, engagement).  The only way to know for sure is to post about it on the bee and allow us to dissect it in great detail.  Or have someone read your tea leaves tomorrow at the moment Kate says I do – I hear that’s guaranteed to be lucky.

    Post # 4
    450 posts
    Helper bee

    @claireos: Well, I think it depends on the guy.  I know that in my situation “signs” would mean nothing, since my guy is VERY direct and he would pretty much come out and SAY something that would indicate a proposal is on the horizon.  There was a time two years ago where I thought I was seeing major signs…but nothing came out of it.  So I’ve learned not to look for signs and not to expect anything until I hear it from him.

    But your guy might be very different from mine…and who knows, maybe you’re on to something.  Good luck!!!

    Post # 5
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I am of the opinion that if you’re ready to get married, you don’t need to be playing games of any kind with each other. No mind games, no guessing games, no board games. Okay, maybe board games. But ferreals, save that stuff for the second date. 

    Post # 6
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted “perhaps” b/c I think a lot of us tend to overanalyze and read too much into behavior.

    ETA: I agree with beluga.  I think it sucks that the engagement process can be so disempowering.

    Post # 8
    185 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @claireos:  Green tea latte?! mmmmm…..

    I think it’s obsessing because for a year and a half I’ve been seeing “signs” and nothing’s happened. Undecided

    Also, I know SO would make sure he doesn’t leave any signs – he knows how sneaky I am!

    Post # 10
    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @claireos: Alas, lattes on the day of the Royal British Wedding are not quite as lucky as tea.  Perhaps there is an American exception?  I’ll have to check on the official rules for you.

    Post # 12
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think you should be relying on open communication, not “signs” in your relationship. Especially if there is a mortgage involved.

    Post # 15
    3587 posts
    Sugar bee

    Signs in general- yes. ๐Ÿ™‚  I’ve certainly had signs about not doing somethign did it, and it ended bad. I’ve also had signs point to dong soemthign and it works out. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Early congrats on your house!I hope it’s all yours soon! I felt the same way about being engaged when I bought mine, it totally went out of my head and being engaged was the last thing I was obsessed with!

    Post # 16
    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @kay01: Hehehe, I agree!

    I think there are some signs… But the guys who are really sneaky (in a good way) don’t give away any signs! I keep my eyes and ears open all the time too. Once in a while yes, I think that your mind plays tricks on you because you want it So. Bad.


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