- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
My Fiance and I went last night to go purchase our wedding bands. We had each agreed to a budget for each band (set at $1000 per ring) and we were paying for each other’s rings. I didn’t really know what kind of band I wanted, but found a very elegant 1/2 carat band that went very well with my ering (attached). The price was right at $1100, but it was 40% off so the total price came to $660 … perfect! Not crazy expensive, but not cheap … so middle of the road. I asked him what he thought of the price and he thought it was a great deal.
Now when to came to his band, wow I didn’t think he would have so many choices! But I’m glad he did. He had narrowed it down to 3, only 1 of which I thought was really him. But the one he picked was just totally not him and it really caught me by surprise. First of all, he selected one with diamonds in it. I’m not totally against diamonds in the men’s bands, but this one was just so over the top, it almost bordered on being a ladies diamond band. It had almost 1 ct of diamonds in it. Granted, if you were looking down at the ring, you wouldn’t notice it had diamonds in it, but if you viewed it just straight on, wow it was blingy! So first off, I just totally thought that the ring was not him. He’s so laid back, casual, easy going … he is not blingy! But then the price hit me. It was $2500! But even with 40% off, the price still came to $1500 (not including tax). He seemed totally fine with me spending that money (knowing that we had set budgets) and didn’t ask me if this was okay. When the sales lady walked away, we were discussing everything and he told me that he really liked his band, that it was different and unique. I felt so bad, but I had to tell him about our budgets and that I was fully expecting to not spend more than that. We’re about to move across the country after the wedding and we’re saving up for a house, children, everything else that comes with a marriage and a move. He understood, but seemed down about it. He did find another band that he says he really likes, it’s more mainstream, but has some uniqueness to it. To me, it fit him MUCH BETTER than the diamonds.
I feel kind of bad for having to reel him in, away from the diamonds, but I honestly didn’t think this ring was him and the price was more than what we had agreed to spend. I want him to have a ring that he loves and I kind of feel like I made him select a sloppy second.
Am I wrong for what I did?