Post # 1
Ok, I was discussing this situation with my sister and her response was to ask “that wedding website you’re always on”. Good idea. 🙂
My SO and I are not yet engaged, but we have discussed getting married for quite some time. We are planning to get married near my hometown, which is 10 hours from our current home. Our timeline for getting married is summer 2012 (teachers, so other times of year are pretty difficult).
Here’s the issue: I am traveling to my hometown in 3 weeks, at which time I doubt we will be engaged. However, I won’t be able to get back to look at possible venues until the end of June. I’m starting to freak out that all the venues I’m interested in won’t be available if I wait until.
I REALLY didn’t want to do any planning until I was engaged, but I don’t know if that is possible given my situation. If I decide to look, I know I have to talk to my SO about it. And I REALLY don’t want to have another conversation about getting engaged until we’re actually engaged.
Ahhhhhhh. Bees, any insight??
Post # 3
I would just wait, everything will fall into place after you’re engaged. Try to enjoy this time, it’s very exciting! You don’t want to get engaged and then have no planning left to do!
Post # 4
Just wait =) There’s always plenty of venues and plenty of dates, etc for picking. I agree with @Jerseygirl23: Everything will fall into place after he pops the question. And plus, looking now doesn’t do anything for the nerves!
Post # 5
I vote for talking it over with him. Explain WHY you want to look in June and ask if he’s okay with it. Just make sure to reassure him that you aren’t trying to rush the engagement or anything. IF he is, then I’d say look around with him.
June/July are the busiest months for weddings, so dates will probably be snapped up quickly. Not to mention the graduations and graduation parties that will be taking place.
If you explain the reasoning behind it, I doubt he’ll have a logical reason not to, especially if you reassure him it’s about your 2012 wedding, not pushing the engagement.
Does that make sense???
Post # 6
How flexible is your wedding date? We too are having our wedding in my hometown which is in a different country from where we are living. We were not able to check out venues in my hometown until the end of June 2010 for our wedding which will be in the summer of 2011 (so a similar timeline to what you have). We had no problem with booking a date with our #1 venue of choice. We were open to any weekend in the summer so I suppose that made it easier.
If you are worried, I suggest that you do internet research on available venues now and visit your top 4 when you are in your hometown so you get a real feel for each place. You don’t have to book the place when you are on this trip but checking out places and meeting with vendors will give you the ability to make an informed decision and book a place from afar when the time comes.
Post # 7
don’t worry about it now.
i’m guessing you still have family in your hometown. you can look at venues online, then have them go visit and take lots of pictures for you. i never saw my venue in person until almost 6 months after we booked it.
Post # 8
@Zinzerena:I like your logic about it being about a wedding in 2012 and not trying to rush him into the engagement.
My head tells me to just relax and that I will be able to find a great place even if I wait until June to start really looking, but I already see so many people on here with summer 2012 weddings deep into planning. Plus my home state is known for being a summer tourist location so that just adds to my anxiety about it.
Post # 9
def wait. prelim research and cost analysis is healthy, but until you are actually physically engaged, you have no idea what HIS wants/needs will be for the venue. better to have your budget, guest list, etc solidified before going down that path