Post # 1
i dont know what to do. I graduated high school (a year early )& I just recently got married- I am 17 years old and will be 18 in sept.–
we have been dating for 4 years-
my family and his family know that i am not pregnant.
but how come when i tell people(or when they ask) if we are married…
about 85% of the VERY NEXT thing anybody says is
“oh, when is the baby due?!?!”
people even came up to my mom and sayed “i heard your daugther got married–you will be a granny soon huh?”
I DONT UNDERSTAND-
why cant people be HAPPY for us-
or at least treat us like they do any other married couple…
i DO NOT regret getting married so you at all-(i love John more than anything in the world)- but these kind of comments def. make me bummed..
Post # 3
I GOT MARRIED BECAUSE I WANT TO–NOT BECAUSE I HAD TO!
Post # 4
I know it sucks, but I think it is just something you have to live with. Most women nowadays do not get married as young as you have, so when someone does people (sometimes wrongly) assume it is because there is a baby on the way :/
No matter the reason you got married though, it is rude for anybody to say that to you.
Post # 5
Congrats on your recent wedding! I think you need to understand that people like to talk. Its just the way they are. You are doing something unusual (these days anyways)… getting married very young. And I’m sure its even more rare when you are not pregnant. You’re going to do a lot of things in your life people will raise eyebrows about… so get used to having confidence in your decisions and ignore what everyone else thinks!
Post # 6
I would just walk away when someone asks or abruptly change the subject. A lot of people assume that if you get married young that maybe there was another reason outside of LOVE to get married.
Post # 7
That really stinks. I’d probably end up using some snarky comment after I heard it the first few times. Try to let it roll off you and ignore it.
Post # 8
I EVEN HAD A LADY IN MY CHURCH SAY
(when we told the church we were engaged)
“well honey-are you even gunna have a wedding”
Post # 9
honey, church ladies are the biggest gossipers of them all
Post # 10
This happened to my cousin too, She was 17 when she got married and EVERYONE thought she was pregnant. People from her church even sent over baby gifts lol.. it was dumb.
So just remember that… it’s stupid. People are ridiculous, there’s always something for them to talk about, after you’ve been married a little while it’ll stop. Just have to wait this one out.
I understand how you’d feel offended. But don’t let haters get you down.
Post # 12
Oh man, people do this for everything. My cousin got married at 27, but had a really short engagement. They hadn’t been dating for more than a year, and had a two month engagement – the preggo comments were flying. I’m sure that was annoying for her, too! Gossip happens anytime you do things that differ from the norm. It’s annoying as all hell, and sites like this are great places to vent. 🙂 But it’s something that you get used to!
Post # 13
I am sorry. People always assume! Just remember that in 9 months they will feel really dumb when you don’t have a baby.
Post # 14
I was 10 years older than you when I got engaged and at 27 I still heard that from sooooooo many people, though probably not as many as you. Mine would come not after I said we were engaged but when they figured out our wedding and engagement were only a bit over 4 months apart. Then they’d ‘put two and two together’ and congratulate me on the baby. There’s not much you can do but laugh.
Post # 15
ditto babyboo and corgi.
Unfortunately, this happens a lot with younger bridees. ust laugh and say, “oh heck no. no babies yet!”. Laughing will make them feel kinda dumb. Why they think it’s ok to say it though, is obviously a sign of having no manners.
Unfortunately, every age and situation comes with a new set of “fun assumptions” you’ll have to deal with. Instead of getting angry, learn how to diffuse them away from you. That’s all you can do.
Post # 16
Unfortunately, I would guess that responses like that are going to come with the territory when you get married as young as you did. It doesn’t make them right, or nice things for people to assume/say, but I can see how it would happen. Try not to take them too personally, as I bet they don’t have much to do with you/your relationship personally – lots of people suffer from “open mouth-insert foot” disorder! lol I think a lot of people assume everyone starts trying to a baby right after they get married, which isn’t true either.
I think a good response would be to laugh a bit, and say “oh, the baby isn’t due for another 3 or 4 years” (or however long you plan to wait before TTC).