(Closed) Oh, you must forgot who the Bride is….(short vent)

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Whoa… is this a joke?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Right on!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

So let me get this straight. Someone volunteered to help and you accepted. She tried to make plans around her schedule and you are upset. Of course you should be doing things on your schedule, because it is your wedding, but if you want help you might need to find a time that would work for her too. I think this “heffa” is so lucky you dismissed her of her duties.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

calling your friend a ‘heffa’ is so classy. I can’t imagine why this girl isn’t bending over backwards for such a nice-sounding person. 

 

And really, what was so offensive about her saying that? All I hear is ‘let me know what dates you need so I can make sure not to have any conflicts’. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@ieatunicorns:  +1. OP: It sounds like your friend is busy, but still nice enough to offer to help. Just because you’re getting married doesn’t mean everyone needs to be at your beck and call on your schedule.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@ieatunicorns:  This this, and more of this.

 

I understand your frustrated that this lady isn’t coming to your every whim, but honestly its YOUR wedding not hers. If you can afford it, it sounds like you need a wedding planner that will work around your schedule, do it by yourself, or take what help you can from this lady or “heffa” that offered her time (no matter how limited it is). And be damn grateful that someone is even offering to help you.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow… Typically when I tell someone I need to put theM on my calendar it just means “let me know what day you need my help so I can make YOU my priority” not that I’m trying to make it all about me… 

Im guessing perhaps there’s more drama in your relationship with this girl than is obvious in your post but if my friend wanted me to go out of my way to assist her with something that’s none of my responsibility and she pretty much had no regard for when it might be convenient for me to do so… I’m not really sure what I’d think about that. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think she just wants to make sure she can give you the attention you need.  If I want to help someone, I want to help them 100%.  Maybe you took this the wrong way?

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeah, you’re right, you are the bride, as in it’s your wedding so it’s your work.  Be grateful you have a friend who wants to sacrifice her free time for a wedding that isn’t hers in the first place.

You do know that just because you dress like one for a day, you’re not really a princess, right? And even so, I’d expect princesses to be even a little humble.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not sure if you took it the wrong way or I’m not reading this right…did she mean she wants you to do everything according to when SHE can? Or did she mean that she wants you to give her dates so she can pencil you in when she is available? 

If the former…yeah, that is kind of rude…if the latter, I think you need to calm down and be grateful. 

Also…it seems really disrespectful to call a friend a “heffa”

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SimpleBride10:  just because she volunteered to help doesn’t mean she has to be available all the time.

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