Post # 1
Long story short, my Matron of Honor lives in Texas and I’m in Georgia. I have a Lady-In-Waiting that initially volunteered to help with putting together favors, going with me to appointments, etc., which is cool, but this girl likes to be center of attention. Good girl, just thinks the world revolves around her. I was glad she volunteered to help, I do have a lot to do.
So anyways how bout this heffa told me the last time we were together that she has been extremely busy (fine, do what you do), but then said I needed to get on her calendar if I wanted her help. LOL! I wanted to say, “Bitch please. The only calendar I get on is my vendor’s calendar. You must forgot, I’m the Bride. Kiss my ass.” Instead I smiled politely and have yet to contact her. I think she can just help out on the day of. I’ll handle the rest.
I think she’s caught on now…I GIVE HER the dates and if she’s free, great if not, keep it moving. June 2, 2012 is MY day….LOL!
Post # 4
@fembride045: No it is not. I refuse to let someone selfish come in and first volunteer to help me and then in the same breath tell me she’s too busy and I have to get on her schedule. Sorry, my wedding, my schedule.
Post # 6
@ForeverAndEverAfter: Planning is already stressful, you know? And I’m two months away and I’ve had it with the attitude from friends and family. LOL! At least I can laugh about it!!
Post # 8
So let me get this straight. Someone volunteered to help and you accepted. She tried to make plans around her schedule and you are upset. Of course you should be doing things on your schedule, because it is your wedding, but if you want help you might need to find a time that would work for her too. I think this “heffa” is so lucky you dismissed her of her duties.
Post # 9
calling your friend a ‘heffa’ is so classy. I can’t imagine why this girl isn’t bending over backwards for such a nice-sounding person.
And really, what was so offensive about her saying that? All I hear is ‘let me know what dates you need so I can make sure not to have any conflicts’.
Post # 10
@ieatunicorns: +1. OP: It sounds like your friend is busy, but still nice enough to offer to help. Just because you’re getting married doesn’t mean everyone needs to be at your beck and call on your schedule.
Post # 11
@ieatunicorns: This this, and more of this.
I understand your frustrated that this lady isn’t coming to your every whim, but honestly its YOUR wedding not hers. If you can afford it, it sounds like you need a wedding planner that will work around your schedule, do it by yourself, or take what help you can from this lady or “heffa” that offered her time (no matter how limited it is). And be damn grateful that someone is even offering to help you.
Post # 12
Wow… Typically when I tell someone I need to put theM on my calendar it just means “let me know what day you need my help so I can make YOU my priority” not that I’m trying to make it all about me…
Im guessing perhaps there’s more drama in your relationship with this girl than is obvious in your post but if my friend wanted me to go out of my way to assist her with something that’s none of my responsibility and she pretty much had no regard for when it might be convenient for me to do so… I’m not really sure what I’d think about that.
Post # 13
I think she just wants to make sure she can give you the attention you need. If I want to help someone, I want to help them 100%. Maybe you took this the wrong way?
Post # 14
Yeah, you’re right, you are the bride, as in it’s your wedding so it’s your work. Be grateful you have a friend who wants to sacrifice her free time for a wedding that isn’t hers in the first place.
You do know that just because you dress like one for a day, you’re not really a princess, right? And even so, I’d expect princesses to be even a little humble.
Post # 15
Not sure if you took it the wrong way or I’m not reading this right…did she mean she wants you to do everything according to when SHE can? Or did she mean that she wants you to give her dates so she can pencil you in when she is available?
If the former…yeah, that is kind of rude…if the latter, I think you need to calm down and be grateful.
Also…it seems really disrespectful to call a friend a “heffa”
Post # 16
@SimpleBride10: just because she volunteered to help doesn’t mean she has to be available all the time.