Post # 1
Fiance and I picked a Friday evening for our wedding. When we started looking at venues I had it in my head that we HAD TO have a Saturday evening wedding. End. Of. Story.
Then – we found our dream venue, a lodge that does weddings exclusively. You and up to 76 of your guests can stay at the lodge. When we were discussing date he told us that for Saturday weddings you have the rehearsal early on Friday (due to Friday evenings being booked for a wedding). You get Saturday night at the lodge and that’s it. If you book a Friday wedding, you hold your rehearsal at the same time as your wedding ceremony, you can have the dinner at the lodge, and everyone can stay that night at the lodge as well at no additional costs to stay the night. Um, no brainer. We want two awesome nights in our awesome venue, thank you!
Here’s my irritation: people think that Fiance and I cheaped out and booked a Friday evening because it’s cheaper than Saturday. In reality, the price difference is only about $1000, which is minimum in the grand scheme of things. When I tell people the date I keep getting, ‘oh, Friday’s are cheaper’ from them – including from Future Brother-In-Law (who is very into appearances and a bit snobbish, BTW). I get so irritated!
Ok, I’m know I’m being silly, please don’t blast me. I just wanted to vent!
Post # 3
@iadornyou: Our wedding is on a Sunday. I totally get where you’re coming from, except we did pick Sunday because it was cheaper! lol
Post # 4
@iadornyou: Those snobs should be happy they are not my relatives because my wedding is on a Wednesday.
In addition to it being a 8k in savings it got me down to the desired number of guests and weeded out the people I was obligated to invite.
Post # 5
Well to be fair, most people who choose to do Friday weddings are trying to cut costs. That being said, I think it’s really rude that people are saying that to your face.
Post # 6
Etiquette Snob here…
Anyone who says such a thing as your Uncle, are RUDE
It is a judgement statement… and should have not been uttered out-loud. Period.
8-} *rolls eyes*
Ignore the naysayers !!
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Ok I read your post and am a tad confused… maybe I missed something, or you didn’t present the whole story
BUT you say
“If you book a Friday wedding, you hold your rehearsal at the same time as your wedding ceremony, you can have the dinner at the lodge, and everyone can stay that night at the lodge as well at no additional costs to stay the night. Um, no brainer. We want two awesome nights in our awesome venue, thank you! “
I didn’t take the idea of booking a Friday Night Wedding to mean you got 2 Nights…
I took it to mean that you get BOTH your Rehearsal & Wedding that Night.
And if someone booked for the Saturday Night following your event, they’d may be there also on Friday Night, but at a different time for their Rehearsal.
And I assumed it meant you’d have to be gone by the time they needed the grounds for their Wedding on the Saturday (and their rooms for the Saturday Night Guests)
Post # 7
I love how people think they’re allowed to comment on wedding budgets. We got some comments about ours being a Sunday wedding because it interfered with football.
Post # 8
@iadornyou: I’d just explain why I chose it. I think people get uppity about Friday weddings because depending on your profession and lifestyle, they can be inconvenient. I think that given your venue and what you wrote, it definitely makes sense to have it on a Friday. Even if you chose a Friday for no reason, that’s your business, of course.
Post # 9
I’m happy to tell people we’re having our wedding on a Friday because it’s cheaper. Weddings are a big expense, and I’ve had a few comments from people questioning it being on Friday, but I straight up say it was cheaper. If they have a problem with that then they can stay home. 🙂
Post # 11
@iadornyou: So what if they think that? Where i live, getting married on a Friday or Sunday cuts the F&B minimums by $10,000. That’s right…the cost of a CAR. Personally, I’m not spending $10,000 more on venue and food simply to have my wedding one day later. That’s insane.
It’s YOUR wedding. Do what makes YOU happy. You’re the one who lives with the memories, photos and the bills from that day. Not your guests. Besides, when they see how lovely your wedding is, they’ll forget all about you “cheaping out” (which you aren’t doing anyway) and realize that you simply got a deal on an amazing venue that otherwise would have been out of budget. In fact, if it really matters to you what they think, play up that you got a really gorgeous venue. You could say something along the lines of “true–but in our case, we were able to get an upgraded/premium venue!”
Post # 12
@This Time Round: Sorry if that was confusing… I think I left a vital pieve of informaiton out. The ceremony location is separate from the lodge. So, if you have a Friday wedding the place is yours from Thursday at noon until 11am on Saturday. If you have a Saturday wedding, the place is yours from noon on Saturday until noon on Sunday, and you can also go to the ceremony site Friday mid-day for your rehearsal, but no rehearsal dinner. One night stay versus two nights.
Post # 13
@iadornyou: I think people assume that you cheaped out because Fridays are inconvenient days for people to attend weddings, so they’re generally cheaper. If I got a Friday wedding invite I’d probably think that too. I don’t think that it’s rude or snobby to think that, because it’s usually true, but it is a litte rude for people to say that to your face.
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Post # 15
@pfizertobe: ahaha I love this response =)
Post # 16
TO @iadornyou: Re – Reply # 11
Lol, that is AWESOME…
No brainer indeed.