(Closed) "Oh, you picked Friday because it's cheaper." VENT

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@iadornyou:  Our wedding is on a Sunday. I totally get where you’re coming from, except we did pick Sunday because it was cheaper! lol

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@iadornyou:  Those snobs should be happy they are not my relatives because my wedding is on a Wednesday.

In addition to it being a 8k in savings it got me down to the desired number of guests and weeded out the people I was obligated to invite.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Well to be fair, most people who choose to do Friday weddings are trying to cut costs. That being said, I think it’s really rude that people are saying that to your face.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here…

Anyone who says such a thing as your Uncle, are RUDE

It is a judgement statement… and should have not been uttered out-loud.  Period.

8-} *rolls eyes*

Ignore the naysayers !!

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Ok I read your post and am a tad confused… maybe I missed something, or you didn’t present the whole story

BUT you say

“If you book a Friday wedding, you hold your rehearsal at the same time as your  wedding ceremony, you can have the dinner at the lodge, and everyone can stay  that night at the lodge as well at no additional costs to stay the night. Um, no  brainer. We want two awesome nights in our awesome venue, thank you! “

I didn’t take the idea of booking a Friday Night Wedding to mean you got 2 Nights…

I took it to mean that you get BOTH your Rehearsal & Wedding that Night.

And if someone booked for the Saturday Night following your event, they’d may be there also on Friday Night, but at a different time for their Rehearsal.

And I assumed it meant you’d have to be gone by the time they needed the grounds for their Wedding on the Saturday (and their rooms for the Saturday Night Guests)

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I love how people think they’re allowed to comment on wedding budgets.  We got some comments about ours being a Sunday wedding because it interfered with football.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@iadornyou:  I’d just explain why I chose it.  I think people get uppity about Friday weddings because depending on your profession and lifestyle, they can be inconvenient.  I think that given your venue and what you wrote, it definitely makes sense to have it on a Friday.  Even if you chose a Friday for no reason, that’s your business, of course.  

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m happy to tell people we’re having our wedding on a Friday because it’s cheaper. Weddings are a big expense, and I’ve had a few comments from people questioning it being on Friday, but I straight up say it was cheaper. If they have a problem with that then they can stay home. 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@iadornyou:  So what if they think that? Where i live, getting married on a Friday or Sunday cuts the F&B minimums by $10,000. That’s right…the cost of a CAR. Personally, I’m not spending $10,000 more on venue and food simply to have my wedding one day later. That’s insane. 

 

It’s YOUR wedding. Do what makes YOU happy. You’re the one who lives with the memories, photos and the bills from that day. Not your guests. Besides, when they see how lovely your wedding is, they’ll forget all about you “cheaping out” (which you aren’t doing anyway) and realize that you simply got a deal on an amazing venue that otherwise would have been out of budget. In fact, if it really matters to you what they think, play up that you got a really gorgeous venue. You could say something along the lines of “true–but in our case, we were able to get an upgraded/premium venue!” 

 

 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@iadornyou:  I think people assume that you cheaped out because Fridays are inconvenient days for people to attend weddings, so they’re generally cheaper. If I got a Friday wedding invite I’d probably think that too. I don’t think that it’s rude or snobby to think that, because it’s usually true, but it is a litte rude for people to say that to your face. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @iadornyou:  Re – Reply # 11

Lol, that is AWESOME…

No brainer indeed.

 

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