(Closed) ohh brother..!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2077 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yikes.  Take a deep breath and grab yourself a glass of wine.

Now look at your post- You stated that you don’t have a relationship with your brother and he lives 3 hours away.  It would hurt my feelings if my sibling didn’t want to attend my wedding, but look at it logically.  Maybe it’s just that he doesn’t feel he can afford the trip.

I’m sorry he doesn’t want to come, maybe you could ask your mother why?

Post # 4
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2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds like you’re better off if he’s going to act that way!!  Is he always this immature?  He could at least have had the decency to contact you appropriately.  Sorry to hear he acted like that.

Post # 5
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46670 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Relationship or no relationship- he should have the common courtesy to:

– communicate with you directly

– attend your wedding

If you meant 3 hrs driving time, he can get his *** in the car and get to the wedding.I ‘m sure he could stay with family so his expenses would be minimal.

Post # 6
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939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would be hurt too.  

Just because OP said they aren’t close doesn’t mean there is bad blood between them either.  to TEXT his mom and say he’s not going is very immature in my opinion.  Almost seems like he wants to cause drama.  But then, i’m just making wild assumptions.  But in my experience, people text “bad news” to stir the pot but then not have to deal with a reaction.

Post # 7
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2077 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@julies1949:  “Relationship or no relationship- he should have the common courtesy to communicate with you directly”  I agree 100% with this.  He should have let the OP know, not communicate through her mom.

If he doesn’t want to come though, it sucks…however no one is required to attend my wedding if they don’t want to.

I guess I would just look at it like this:  You reached out to your estranged brother and he’s not ready for a relationship.  It would have been nice, and I would probably have felt hurt too, but this seems to go deeper than just declining a wedding invite.

P.S.  LOL I just realized I told a 20 year old to grab a glass of wine in my first post.  I’m sorry!  For some reason the age you posted just didn’t register in my brain.  Duh!

Post # 8
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902 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m not close to my brother at all and I will not be inviting him to my wedding.

God forgive me but he is a drug head, split from his girlfriend who wants nothing to do with him (she’s a bowl of drama herself and a drug head) they have 3 kids together that I’ve never really felt the need to know (because of their drama).  He is now living with my cousin’s ex (who aren’t even legally divorced yet and she has 3 kids as well.. needless to say they arent invited either to my wedding lol).

However, if my brother wasn’t such a loser and had a better life for himself I could understand seeing inviting him to my wedding.  And if that were the case and he replied to my mom (which my mom is not his mom, we share the same dad) by a text I would be alittle upset but I don’t think I would be terribly distraught over it.

I don’t know your story with your brother but from my personal experience with mine, I wouldn’t worry much about people who you at least cared enough about to invited and don’t show up.  They’re lost!

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