(Closed) OH/PA Brides – Cookie Table Help?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

I don’t see how it would be? Usually the cookie table comes out after dinner by an hour or so

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Pittsburgher here! I would have no problem with “flipping” a food table into a cookie table after dinner. I have never been to a wedding where the cookies were made available prior to the end of dinner. Even at weddings with a lavish cookie spread, these were “off-limits” until dinner ended.

By The Way cookie tables are super cute. And they are convenient snacking stations for hungry late-nite dancing pals.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

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BeachBee1988:  I’m with you that I’ve always seen them out the whole time but I think it would be fine to flip a table!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Another Pittsburgh bee! I think it’s totally fine to bring the cookies out later. Most weddings I have been to have the cookie table the whole time, but I have been to 1 or 2 where that is not the case. It depends on the confines of your venue. Also, it’s perfectly fine to have a modest cookie table, but don’t UNDER-do it either. Especially coming from an area where cookie tables are typical, make sure you have enough cookies so every guest who wants one can have one.

ETA: I just love the cookie table tradition. Besides being a fun way to incorporate homemade treat into the wedding, it’s always nice to have a snack later in the night. I find I miss the cookie table when I stray to weddings too far east. May I ask, completely out of curiosity, why you aren’t keen on having one?

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 4 months ago by beckybee787.
Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I am also a Pittsburgh bride. To be honest I didn’t know cookie tables were not a thing at every wedding until my Fiance asked what was the deal with them. He is from WV. 

We had to come to terms with the cookie table idea. We are going to have cookies with a mix of candy that matches our colors. 

I can understand worrying about guest not eatting your cake you spent so much money on. For the last couple of weddings I went to. Most people didn’t really touch their cake. I am doing cupcakes instead and having them boxed up for our guest. So I know at one point someone will eat them. Also I won’t have to worry about who is going to cut and pass out 80 plus slices. 

If this is a major thing for them. I would just buy a smaller cake. Maybe have a few tiers made out of cardboard? 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

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BeachBee1988:  this native Pittsburgher thinks that your relatives are being jerks. Sure, most cookie table weddings that I have been to had the display out all night. But that was because it was easier to set it up prior to the festivities. If space were limited and it was necessary to flip a table, I would have *no problem* with that.

Are these relatives mad at you for something else, and making the cookie table a strawman for a different problem that they have with you?

Re: their ultimatum. If that’s how they feel, then that’s how they feel. Tell them that if they’re unwilling to use a flipped table, then there cannot be a cookie table at your wedding.

I’m sorry that the cookie table is turning out to be a negative experience for you, Bee. It is supposed to be a cute and fun thing  🙁

 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I’m a Youngstown native and normally the cookies are out the entire time, but if it’s going to be an issue- swapping a table is totally fine. I will tell you that if you don’t have the cookies out the entire time you will most likely have a ton leftover, people usually eat the cookies the entire night. The other thing is if you are having a lot of cookies it make need some time to be set up, and it may just be easier to do it before hand. Just food for thought.

But I don’t think it’s offensive in any way- just explain that it’s a space issue and you need the space for food, but as soon as dinner is over you will bring out the cookies. But seriously the cookies are to die for, I would kill for some italian wedding cookies right now!!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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BeachBee1988:  I would just tell them thank you for the offer, but you aren’t going to be able to display the cookies for the whole evening. If they don’t want to make cookies, good! You didn’t want the table anyway. It’s YOUR wedding, and you do not have to be pressured into having one. You graciously accepted the offer for cookies even though you didn’t want them to begin with, and now they are trying to make demands about how you use the cookies? No. If they pressure you about how you have to have a cookie table, just say you are ok having the table, but you want the cookies kept in a temperature-controlled environment until dessert. Honestly, with an outdoor reception and homemade cookies, I think that makes perfect sense.

Ugh, I love the traditional Western PA/Ohio style, but I feel for you. The enthusiasm (which can easily devolve into militant, self-important demanding) of some people around here can be tiresome. “I get it, Auny Mary, you like Heinz ketchup–a pittsburgh original–but this place only has Huntz, so eat your hot dog and shut up.” Pittsburgh/regional traditions are like a religion out here. It’s a little nuts. Do not let them bully you into having something you don’t want. 

Also, in response to your earlier post, I don’t think you ever sounded ungrateful just because you don’t like cookie tables, especially since you were planning on having one just to cater to your future in-laws. You sound very gracious and polite, actually. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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BeachBee1988:  Pittsburgh bride here! We used our cookies as an added decoration for our cake table. Instead of a small round table, we used one long one. It turned out beutifully as most people made cookies in our wedding colors ^-^ We had them displayed the whole reception, so the cookies served as a bonus appetizer for us!

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Post # 15
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Busy bee

OMG I want a clothes pin cookie!!

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