(Closed) deleting…too harsh bees..geesh moment of emotional take over…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That sounds very odd and I would be annoyed too!  However, I would be happy he was taking me to meet her instead of not mentioning me, you know?  

Post # 4
Member
1645 posts
Bumble bee

Because your Fiance is allowed a past and a history and relationships with those that he cares to continue relationships with. This person you’re meeting? She’s a mutual friend of him and someone he USED to date?

So how is she an annoyance to you?

Honestly? You’re being really selfish. Your Fiance is taking the time to introduce to you someone from his life (past/present/doesn’t matter). Go with him–and try not to pout.

Post # 5
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

At least he’s taking you with him and not going to meet her by himself. That would make me more livid! Who knows, she might be a cool girl!

Post # 6
Member
2410 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Would you prefer him to go off and meet with her solo?

Post # 7
Member
5183 posts
Bee Keeper

lol keep your friends close but your….etc etc etc. Meet the girl, you might actually like her! Strange that he called her baby and didn’t mention you.. maybe he did so prior to that email you saw? 

Post # 8
Member
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m confused… is he meeting his ex girlfriend? Or someone he and his ex were friends with together?

If it’s the latter, I have no idea why you are upset. She’s a friend of his and he wants you to meet her. She’s obviously not in town often (since she lives out of the country).

If it’s his ex-girlfriend, that is a little odd, but if they’ve stayed friends all these years, why not go meet her? It’s not like he’s sneaking around behind your back, he wants to take you with him.

Post # 9
Member
1645 posts
Bumble bee

OK you need to clarify, cause there’s a lot being said.

The girl you’re meeting tonight is the MUTUAL FRIEND of him and his ex, no?

But the email you saw (left open? …really? come on…) was from his actual EX?

Post # 11
Member
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I kinda act like your Fiance.  I just wouldn’t want my ex to feel awkward by telling him about someone new or hurt my Fiance, I know it’s bad and it backfires, but it can mean nothing.

Post # 12
Member
2263 posts
Buzzing bee

Hmm I can understand why you might be a little annoyed meeting her especially if you only get a couplehours a week to spend with your Fiance, but you do have to realize that she hasn’t actually done anything to you and maybe you could use this opprotunity to get to know her. Who cares if she may/may not be friends still with your FI’s ex, hes with you now. And considering that you only seen one email, you don’t know that he could have told her about your relationship before or after that.

Post # 13
Member
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MissHoneyBun: I thought so too, but I’m confused as to who wrote the e-mail (mutual friend, or ex girlfriend).

Also, depending on the person, “Baby” might be the name everyone calls her? (anyone seen Dirty Dancing?)

Post # 14
Member
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@KatNYC2011: LOL.

honestly though, a lot of my filipino friends have an “auntie baby”

Post # 15
Member
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Go and meet the woman!

Be glad he told you about the meeting AND he invited you to come.  Meet her and make a decision for yourself about his and her relationship.  All you have now are clues that may or may not be correct.  You could very well be all wrong in your assumption.  Plus, if you pass up on this opportunity, you’ll regret it!

The topic ‘deleting…too harsh bees..geesh moment of emotional take over…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors