(Closed) Ok Brides ask me ANYTHING–I’m a Wedding Planner

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Post # 3
11 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

Phebe, this is so nice of you to do this!

I’m getting married August 6th at the Villa in East Bridgwater and have been looking EVERYWHERE to rent crystal or gold candelabras. Who do you reccomend? PS: I don’t mind driving lol



Post # 4
3354 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 1900

@Phebelasha: Do you recommend choosing a theme/colors first, and then selecting a venue that goes with them,  or  do you think I should select my venue first and then work on choosing a theme/colors?   For example, I wouldn’t want to be stuck with a nautical theme/colors when my reception is in a castle, or vice versa.  (Extreme example, I know.)

Post # 5
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2022 - City, State

@Phebelasha:Thanks for offering!  I’m a black hispanic with natural hair (see pic), so I’m really concerned with finding make-up and hair artists that can deal with my hair and complexion.  I’m fine with hiring two people, but would prefer on-site.  Any suggestions?  

Post # 10
12 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

hey Pheblasha,

we have been thinking of having a cash bar rather than open bar—will people inevitably be pissed off and is this a bad idea?

Post # 11
2214 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is awesome! I wish I could afford a wedding planner because I have way too many questions.


But this is the most frustrating one we are running into:

We are NOT planning on doing a first look but we want to make sure there are plenty of pictures of us together. So obviously that means post ceremony pictures. But what I am worried about is our guests. The reception hall is right across the street and I don’t want them standing around for an hour while we do that. We can’t afford cocktails otherwise that would solve the problem. What can we do so the guests don’t get ancy and upset that we aren’t there as quickly?


Also, we were thinking about having “marriage advice” cards or “well wishes” (for all unmarried people) but we are having a tough time making it fit into our theme. We are going to a live theare (not movies) theme but very upscale and classy. Fiance has come up with a lot of ideas like having people write on mirrors like they do in dressing rooms or giving people roses with papers attached that they can write on and “toss them onto a stage”, or even give them papers that look like theatre tickets and have them drop them in a ticket booth. but all of those just seems so… cheesy. And the ticket booth thing we can’t find anything that wouldn’t LOOK cheesy. Any ideas? We are open to ANYTHING at this point!

Post # 12
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

thanks!! my planner came w my venue- i was telling him what kind of centerpiece i wanted and he didnt agree. he rudely said “well do u have a design degree?”

what would u do? fire him?

Post # 13
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Phebelasha: Hi!  Thanks so much for offering to help out 🙂

My Fiance and I are getting married out doors. We plan on having the ceremony under a big beautiful tree.  My question: I have been waffling between making our own arbor and decorating it, decorating the tree we are getting married under, or just leaving the site undecorated.  My theme is simple and elegant, and I have been trying to “let nature be the decor”, but I keep thinking a little something might be nice.  Do you have any advice  on what I should do?  Should I leave it alone or try to decorate? 

(One thing I am putting in the tree are a few windchimes for a nice delicate sound) – but those are going to be out of view….)


Thank you so very much!

This is the site of the actual ceremony (attached) The tree the one at the tip of the island. (The one in full view to the left).


Post # 14
46 posts
  • Wedding: March 2012

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