Post # 1
I’ve been reading through a ton of the posts and thought I would offer my help and expertise in the industry. Ok Brides ask me anything about Wedding Planners and nothing is off limits (I promise ).
This industry is one of the most saturated fields and I can’t tell you how many “up and coming” wedding planners I’ve run into over the years. I’ve also had the pleasure of running into some of the best in the field and have been honored to chat, work with them. One thing is true is that you really want to be familiar with what a wedding planner should do and why you should hire one.
I can’t wait to see your questions.
Post # 3
Phebe, this is so nice of you to do this!
I’m getting married August 6th at the Villa in East Bridgwater and have been looking EVERYWHERE to rent crystal or gold candelabras. Who do you reccomend? PS: I don’t mind driving lol
Post # 4
@Phebelasha: Do you recommend choosing a theme/colors first, and then selecting a venue that goes with them, or do you think I should select my venue first and then work on choosing a theme/colors? For example, I wouldn’t want to be stuck with a nautical theme/colors when my reception is in a castle, or vice versa. (Extreme example, I know.)
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2022 - City, State
@Phebelasha:Thanks for offering! I’m a black hispanic with natural hair (see pic), so I’m really concerned with finding make-up and hair artists that can deal with my hair and complexion. I’m fine with hiring two people, but would prefer on-site. Any suggestions?
Post # 6
HI Ladies I didn’t know you’d responded to my post! Thanks so much for doing so and now to answer your questions…..
Post # 7
@almatron21, I’d try rentals unlimited they absolutely have a silver candelabra that you can view online and it’s quite affordable–you can always see if they have it in gold or crystal. I think one thing that you’re going to find is the cost can be upwards of $200 for some…I’d also recommend scouring goodwills or second hand shops and visiting your local hardware store for gold spray paint! You will save a ton in the end! Best of luck.
If you have any more questions don’t hesiate to ask.
Post # 8
Yes! I do recommend thinking of the theme and colors of your wedding before selecting a venue, you have a better idea of the look and feel you’re going for vs. feeling like your wedding has to fit your venue. This is where I all too often see a big mistake being made, for example a bride wants a truly rustic fall wedding and selects a venue that is all plain walls and has more of a modern or industrial feel. Many brides feel frustrated and end up spending much more money just to decorate and get the look that they want. Take your time and go slow, create a few inspiration boards or browse online here or at Style Me Pretty and see what you are naturally drawn to.
If you have more questions don’t hesitate to ask! Until then Happy Planning.
Post # 9
@Amberaustin, I’m a natural girl too (12 months and still going and loving my natural hair!). There are lots of hair/makeup artists who specialize in this so I don’t think you necessarily need to hire two people. Do you have a local salon you frequent that includes bridal services? If they do than normally makeup is apart of the package. I’m not sure where you’re located so I’m sorry I can’t be more specific.
Best of luck!
Post # 10
we have been thinking of having a cash bar rather than open bar—will people inevitably be pissed off and is this a bad idea?
Post # 11
This is awesome! I wish I could afford a wedding planner because I have way too many questions.
But this is the most frustrating one we are running into:
We are NOT planning on doing a first look but we want to make sure there are plenty of pictures of us together. So obviously that means post ceremony pictures. But what I am worried about is our guests. The reception hall is right across the street and I don’t want them standing around for an hour while we do that. We can’t afford cocktails otherwise that would solve the problem. What can we do so the guests don’t get ancy and upset that we aren’t there as quickly?
Also, we were thinking about having “marriage advice” cards or “well wishes” (for all unmarried people) but we are having a tough time making it fit into our theme. We are going to a live theare (not movies) theme but very upscale and classy. Fiance has come up with a lot of ideas like having people write on mirrors like they do in dressing rooms or giving people roses with papers attached that they can write on and “toss them onto a stage”, or even give them papers that look like theatre tickets and have them drop them in a ticket booth. but all of those just seems so… cheesy. And the ticket booth thing we can’t find anything that wouldn’t LOOK cheesy. Any ideas? We are open to ANYTHING at this point!
Post # 12
thanks!! my planner came w my venue- i was telling him what kind of centerpiece i wanted and he didnt agree. he rudely said “well do u have a design degree?”
what would u do? fire him?
Post # 13
@Phebelasha: Hi! Thanks so much for offering to help out 🙂
My Fiance and I are getting married out doors. We plan on having the ceremony under a big beautiful tree. My question: I have been waffling between making our own arbor and decorating it, decorating the tree we are getting married under, or just leaving the site undecorated. My theme is simple and elegant, and I have been trying to “let nature be the decor”, but I keep thinking a little something might be nice. Do you have any advice on what I should do? Should I leave it alone or try to decorate?
(One thing I am putting in the tree are a few windchimes for a nice delicate sound) – but those are going to be out of view….)
Thank you so very much!
This is the site of the actual ceremony (attached) The tree the one at the tip of the island. (The one in full view to the left).
Post # 14
Bumping for more responses from @Phebelasha
Post # 15
@kerrysawesomewedding first off this is your wedding which means you get to have it your way, your guests are there to celebrate you and your fi so don’t worry about pleasing everyone. Now with that said I think if you’re going to do an all cash bar you can find a way to meet in the middle without breaking the bank….here are a few suggestions.
1.) Open Cocktail hour beer and wine only, which means that your guests will have to pay for anything beyond that
2.) Open Cocktail hour beer and wine AND your siggy cocktail–stick to house liquor to keep the cost down..example smirnoff over beefeaters
3.) Cash Bar, 2 passes of wine at dinner and siggy cocktail
4.) 2 passes of wine at dinner only
5.) Siggy cocktail during cocktail hour only
As you can see the options arel limitless when it comes to bev consumption, but please don’t feel any pressure to do drinks if it’s simply not in your budget. It also may be helpful for you to set a bar tab..say $500 and when that is gone the bar is cash.
Post # 16
@flyinpig3. Your planner is out of line, I have had clients come to me with some pretty wild ideas some great and some not so great but I never-ever insult a clients vision! This is your wedding and hunny you can have it your way, if you are at all feeling swayed about your centerpiece try doing a mock up and see if you like it. Sometimes bringing it to life can give you another perspective or make you fall in love with it and your idea all over again.
I think it’s important that you talk to your planner about boundries, for example I’d love for you to plan my wedding and help execute a successful event however my taste and style isn’t up for discussion. Don’t worry this isn’t snarky at all! I ask every client right up front about boundries…what can and can’t I talk about throughout the planning? That way we clear the air before any clouds appear if you get my drift.
If you’re not feeling comfortable after the conversation–FIRE HIM!
Good luck and then Happy Planning,