Post # 77
First, thank you SO much for your sharing your time & knowledge! It is greatly appreciated. Having said that..I’m stuck and I need a professional, kick in the pants.
Basically, a recently engaged service woman currently serving in SE Asia and my access to Bride-ish information is somewhat limited. Sans the internet and the mountain of colourful magazines that my euphoric Mother has mailed….I feel like I’m not doing enough. What, if anything can I ‘plan’ from across the Pond??? Should I remain in brainstorming mode until I get home next month??
Thanking you in advance!!
Post # 78
@loribeth. Ok gotcha, this is really your call, keep in mind you may be working with vendors who are estbalishing their business so they may be a one person show. Bottom line is if they do a great job….tip.
Good Luck and Happy Planning!
Post # 79
@swoontobemrsg. I worked for a few years at a venue that had outdoor receptions only and this was always a common question! So here’s the deal you can either get an aisle runner which will prevent your sinking into the grass or as I always recommend try stepping slighly more on the balls of your feet instead of the rythmic heal-toe method…trust me it works!
You should feel gorgeous on the day of your wedding so if you don’t love the wedges idea or wearing two pairs of shoes on the day of your wedding then don’t do it…..and yes heelstoppers will help too!
Good Luck and Happy Planning!
Post # 80
@swoontobemrsg. To be clear there will be some sinkage if you’re on grass in heals however the methods that I listed are helpul in decreasing the amount you sink in.
*any aisle runner will work for an outside wedding–
Post # 81
@redhead831. Ok please allow me to unleash some honesty……
As wedding planners we are in a business of helping brides throughout various stages of event planning and ultimately our goal is to get you to your wedding day.
There is an infinite amount of research, time spent on the phone, emailing, and etc that goes on, in truth their are some planners who have capitalized on just that “time”. These planners choose to charge a client for everything including research, phone call, emails after hours and etc!
Well ladies I think this is awful, while I do keep track of the time I put into for every project this is only if a client would like a report of total time worked at the end of the event. Did you buy a package from your planner?? If so then read over your contract carefully…these sound like hidden charges and by the time you’ve paid her in full for her services you’ve slowly over time purchased one of the larger packages! Good for you, I wouldn’t contact her to do any “research” for you anymore and I think you’re right to not feel like you trust her.
I def think you should have a very honest conversation with your wedding planner prior to your wedding day–this is going to allow you to lay everything on the table. Please make sure you explain that moving forward you’d like to know of any additional costs that may be incurred on the day of your wedding—go through everything and I mean everything on the day of…for example is she going to charge you for a production schedule? Does she have a specific time in the contract where the “job is done” and you will be charged for additional hours worked.
I’m not sure where you’re located but I’d be happy to assist you in any research you may need, schedule, etc–with no fee (I’m sorry for the trouble you’ve gone through thus far).
Good Luck and Happy Planning!
Post # 82
I was wondering if you knew of any parks in the CA Bay Area that would be really good for a wedding. I’m thinking of having it outside for both the ceremony and the reception.
And please let me know of any tips. I feel so clueless =] Thank you so much!
(PS. Maybe you could message me =] )
Post # 83
Hi! Thank you so much for doing this! My date is 7/2/11 and I’m already having weekly panic attacks so it’s nice to be able to get some advice!
I am still hammering out a DJ for our reception but am wondering if there are bands in boston that aren’t crazy expensive? I would love to have a band but some of the prices I’ve seen are seriously scary. Do you have any band recommendations or could you tell me how much bands typically go for in Boston?
Post # 84
Sorry for the delay in my response…for some reason this post doesn’t go to my email. @sunflower.kisses11 and @sandle I’ll pm you my reponses.
Did I get everyone else??? Ladies you’ve been amazing and your questions were fab, keep em’ coming!
Until then happy planning!
Post # 85
@Phebelasha: First, I want to say thank you sooo much for doing this! I am sincerely grateful.
My question is about tablecloths. I got a great deal on 132 sized round tablecloths. I didn’t realize until after I had bought them and opened them that my tables only fit 120 rounds. Do you have any suggestions on how I can fit them to the table? I thought about spray painting large saftey pins (tablecloths are burgundy) and adjusting them that way (by pining the excess fabric towards the underside of the tablecloth). I also thought about using ribbon to some how hold them up. The sizing doesn’t appear to be crazy big……but it is definitely big enough where I would like to make some sort of alterations. Do you have any suggestions?
Thanks again! I hope you have a lovely day 🙂
Post # 86
I haven’t read through all the previous questions, so I apologize if this question has been asked before.
Are save-the-dates really necessary? I don’t want to blind side anyone with our invitation, but the people in our lives will already know we’re getting married, right? So after the initial round of phone calls, is an invitation enough? Or do I need STD’s?
Post # 87
@Phebelasha: I’m getting some total sticker shock while looking up DJs today. Do you have any recommendation for DJ/entertainers that wont break the bank that service Greater Boston?
Post # 88
Thanks for helping everyone Phoebe 🙂
I am having trouble with caterers right now. I am trying to do all I can to work with a 6K budget for up to 150 people. I am having a Sunday afternoon brunch and keepign it as simple and cheap as I can- but all the vendors I talk to are charging me around 1,600 just for servers, delivery, & serving rentals. Is there anything I can do to cut down on serving staff??? The venue requires catering staff to be there for the entire meal. I got a quote for $15/person from some caterers and it’s so ridiculous that the cost of non food stuff is more than the cost of food! I want to keep the total to $3,500 if possible for just a simple brunch.
Post # 89
Hmmmmm this is going to be tricky and the BEST you’re going to see is $15 pp depending on where you live. Is this a plated service or buffet? You may get away with a slightly lower rate if it’s buffet but then again it sounds like your venue has rules where it won’t matter. In short unless you change your venue this is likely the lowest rate you’re going to have at this venue.
Post # 90
Hi again Pheebes,
Fiance and I are having a hard time finding the venue that we want to celebrate our marriage at. We are looking for a reception venue that provides variety for our guests. We don’t want a country club, hotel ballroom, or other “traditional” reception venue. We found Elm Bank (Massachusetts Horticultural Society) in Wellesley, MA and we both love how guests can roam the multiple gardens, dance in the carriage house, and have dinner in the air conditioned tent. However, Elm Bank is pricey so we would like to look at other options. Our budget is $20,000 but this has to include everything, so the whole budget cannot go towards the venue alone.
I have seen multiple venues already, but most had one indoor-only area for guests (e.g. ballroom, tent, restaurant). I have some elderly and handicapped guests that would prefer to stay in an air conditioned space, so having an outdoor-only reception on Labor Day weekend is out of the question. I would like to be able to offer both indoor and outdoor access for my guests, if possible, even if it is an outside deck or garden area. We are looking for variety.
Do you have any ideas for locations that provide both indoor and outdoor space, or multiple spaces with different views, in the Greater Boston/Southern New Husband area? I am in Lowell, as are most of my non-OOT (out of town) guests, so the closer to the Lowell area the better.
Post # 91
(edited to remove self promotion)
With that said here are my suggestions:
Take a look at the Codman Estate in Ipswich, MA. They have a beautiful Italian Garden where you can have your ceremony and you can have your wedding tented off of a smaller house. Guests are still allowed the freedom to roam around, sit on the porch, and etc. It’s simply gorgeous and I had a wedding there earlier this summer. You should know the Codman doesn’t make their money off of events like weddings so the venue is super-duper inexpensive–REALLY. Take a look at my previous wedding here . I’d be happy to further recommend caterers, florists, etc too if you’d like.
In Southern New Hampshire take a look at The Grand View Inn and Resort and tell them Phebe sent you! I started my love for weddings there and can speak highly to the quality of staff you’ll be working with. Again it gives you the free range to have both the outdoor cermony and indoor reception with an option to roam the grounds. If you ask they’ll also throw in a bonfire after your wedding, which is a nice thing to do for guests that still want to party the night away.
I could recommend a dozen or so more places but I wanted you to start here because I truly think one of these places is YOUR wedding venue.
Wishing you all the best and if you need any more recommendations don’t hesitate to post again.