Post # 1
I have been looking all over the place to find a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress that would fit all of my Bridesmaid or Best Man, without paying a ton of money. I figured that I was going to pay for their dress because I don’t want to have them to pay money for a dress for my day, or a something that is not their taste.
I have come to the conclusion to allow my Bridesmaid or Best Man to wear any knee length black dress that they already have & the Groomsmen to wear any black suit that they already have with a white shirt. The BM’s flowers will be made of deep purple callas & the Groomsmen will have a deep purple tie.
Now I know it’s my wedding and I should have things my way, but I honestly don’t feel like thinking about what everybody else is going to wear anymore.
So…. tell the truth, would you feel that I am being tooooo accomodating or just being cheap and lazy?
Post # 3
Um stick around here (or other wedding sites) for a while. Tons of people already do that. You are fine.
Post # 4
Yeah, it’s all about your call! If you don’t care, want to keep costs down and want to make sure you’ll have happy BMs, go for it!
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2010 - University of Toronto Faculty Club
Yeah, no worries. Definitely not cheap or tacky.
Post # 6
Nope! I think it sounds very accomodating and think it will look great. There are so many inspiration pictures of people who do this, and it always comes out looking fabulous!
Post # 7
I’ve been in a wedding where we did that and I’ve attended another that did the same thing. You’re fine. But I know a lot of people know when they are asked to be BM’s GM’s that they need to pay for their own attire.
Post # 8
I have a feeling that your bridesmaids and groomsmen will love you guys! What’s not to love about wearing any knee length black dress? I mean seriously! How awesome!
Post # 9
I think this is a really nice thing to do for your bridesmaids and groomsmen, and I’m sure they’ll appreciate it. I’m planning on asking my BMs to wear knee length black dresses, as well. I want them to feel and look good, and honestly, I just don’t care if they all match. There are plenty of other details that do matter to me, so I’m happy to let this one go. I don’t think it’s lazy or cheap at all.
Post # 10
I think that’s a great idea! Saves them money and they can wear something they like and can wear again! good choice!
Post # 11
I’m also asking the bridesmaids to wear knee length black dresses with groomsmen in black suits and purple ties/flowers, so obviously I think it’s fine! So far the people I have told have been happy with that. The only thing I’m asking them to do is where some kind of fun shoes, as in not black just because I love funky colorful shoes.
Post # 12
@tootie664: Tons of people do this. Bridemaids don’t have to be uniform anymore. In fact, the new trend is mismatch. ^_^ Your girls will appreciate that they don’t have to spend $200 on a dress they will never wear again.
Post # 13
@McVerde: AWWWWW Thanks Hive! I know I have a lot of time to plan and make arrangements, but this is honestly something that I don’t think I could deal with anymore. I am planning to have 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man and they range in sizes from 8-18 there is no way that I could pick a dress that would fit everyone.
Besides, I’d rather spend my time DIYing!
Post # 14
I’m asking all of my BMs to wear grey dresses of their choice. I may ask them to wear pink shoes but I’m not really sure. I don’t care what shade of grey they pick or what the style is. I will offer to help them shop but in the end I want them to be comfortable with the style and price of what they wear. I think that somewhere down the road it will be the common thing for BMs to not match and brides who want matching maids will get the raised eyebrow.
Post # 15
This is what we did (except tuxes instead of suits since 3 out of our 4 guys own one). It looked great and they all were happy having a choice and getting to do what was right for their style and budget. Nothing cheap or tacky about it at all.
Post # 16
I think that would look really pretty! It’s definitely not, and I think everyone else would also appreciate the sentiment.