Post # 1
Mr. Shef and I were together for almost 4 years when he proposed in April. We decided to wait until after graduation to get married so we set our wedding date for June 18th, 2011. Then my cousin gets engaged and sets their date for June 19th. B!tch move but now they can’t move their date but we can. So we do. July 10th is now our PERMANENT wedding date. So then we find out another friend of mine is engaged. Her wedding will be January 3. That’s cool. Then another friend gets engaged. Wedding, is April 14. Okay… Now 3 other people all before us who have all been dating for less than 6 months. (well, the April couple have been on and off for years) Now another friend of his gets engaged but luckily their wedding isn’t until next November. Today I found out that yet ANOTHER friend got engaged last month and the wedding is July 27th! Seriously? So we are now number 4 in line to get married out of 6 weddings. Great. People are going to be so weddinged out by the time they get to us. I am just so frustrated because now, instead of it being this super special, one of a kind day for our families, we are just one in 6 couples getting married that year. I feel even worse for the couples after us. Then again only a very select few know either couple who will be at our wedding so it wont be so bad. So ontop of the whole “next in line” feeling I have also realized we have 5 weddings to buy gifts for while attempting to pay for our own!!! NOBODY ELSE I KNOW IS ALLOWED TO GET MARRIED NEXT YEAR DARN IT!
I know it seems like a stupid thing to be upset about because nodoby set out to make my day feel any less special and I know that on my wedding day my feelings will change and people will be happy for me but knowing something and feeling something is completely different sometimes.
Post # 3
this might be your gut reaction, but you’ll get over it. focus on the positive — you get to share your joy with 6 couples!
Post # 4
People wont’ be weddinged out! I attended 3 weddings in a 2 month period this fall and loved every single one of them! They were all different and fun in their own way. I didn’t really compare them to each other…though I did use them to get ideas for my own wedding. Just be glad that you get to share in the love of that many close friends and family!
Post # 5
In 2008 I went to 14 weddings! That’s right 14. I was in 8 of them! You hit an age where everyone starts to get married and that’s it. In 2009 5 weddings. This year just one other besides ours, but next year we already have 6 on the table. I know I am not going to make you feel beter, but this is life. You should be excited for everyone the way you want them to be excited for you.
Post # 6
I think it’s just that time in your life where you’re going to be going to a lot of weddings. We had 8 weddings the year that we were married, and a few of them were with mutual friends. In fact, my best friend was married 2 weeks before me and my roommate was married 3 weeks after me. It was honestly a lot of fun to plan our weddings with each other. They were all so different and had our own personal touches.
Try to embrace it and have fun at all of them! You can bounce ideas off each other and even share great deals you’ll get on different vendors!
Post # 7
I would love to be able to go to that many weddings in a year. It makes me sad that only get one every few years because everyone I know either got married when I was young, elopes, or isn’t old enough to even date.
Post # 8
I will have gone to 10 weddings in a 12 month span by the time we get married. About half of them are out of town. So while it makes money a bit tighter, I’m not upset about it. I just call them research. 🙂
Post # 9
Does this mean if William and Kate invite you- you wont attend?
sorry- Im on a royal kick today
Post # 10
@retreadbride: I am still attending the weddings.
Post # 11
@kfricke you got your royal invitation already darn now I have run to the post to see what happened to mine;)
Post # 12
I haven’t been posting lately but saw this one and just had to comment.
I’m a wedding guest pro. This year alone I’ve attended at least 2 weddings a month, I’ve been a bridesmaid in 6. The month of my wedding I was invited to 3 other weddings. The month after that I have a wedding every weekend. As of now I am a Bridesmaid in 4 weddings in 2011. I have lots of friends and we are just at a stage were marriage is whats happening.
You should think, those other brides are going through the same thing. Being angry or frustrated doesn’t do any good. Just embrace it.
Post # 13
Aww, I can understand how you’d feel that way. By all means, vent! That’s one of the great things about the Bee. There are hundreds of us in the same situation, so someone is bound to sympathize.
Personally, I love going to other people’s weddings. If I were in your situation, I guess I would just try to look forward to being a guest at all of those other weddings. Planning your own is so stressful, and while all that attention is nice, it can also be really exhausting. I’d just try to enjoy myself at the other weddings as much as possible, knowing that you have zero obligations and pressure on you.
Post # 14
When it rains, it pours! It’s that time of year AND age when it all comes at once. Really, it should be fun more than anything to be able to celebrate so many of your friends over that time period. And still, it sounds like there is SOME space of time between each one so it won’t seem like an assembly line when it gets closer.
Just wait till you all start having babies around the same time!
Post # 15
Vent away! I went to nine weddings last year before my own in January. 6 of them were my husband’s family(sister, cousins) and were between October and November. I was “waiting” for about a year before we got engaged and we’d planned on a fall 2009 wedding. Until every single weekend got taken by his family—I was still ringless and watched the entire fall get taken up after each engagement. It was very hard but it all worked out in the end.
Sorry, that was a tangent. Just wanted you to know i feel ya. Each of those weddings was special and unique. It was actually fun to all be in wedding planning mode together–there was tons to talk about. Lots of socializing with all of the showers and parties. It worked out and most everyone got along.
Post # 16
LOL – a similar thing happened to us! Got engaged Jan 2009 – wedding Sept 2010. Not really a majorly long engagement, right? Cue couple 1 March 2010 (who met Jul 09 on the net) getting pregnant and married in Aug 2010, then 1 month later couple 2 announce they’ll get married Jul 2010. However, I was so pleased for both of them that I genuinely didn’t mind, in fact I loved doing all the wedding chat with my friends. People love going to weddings, so just go with the flow and enjoy that time of your life together.