Post # 1
So my SO and I haven’t been together THAT long, 8 months and I’m not that old at 22 but the boy is 33. My goal always was to be married and planning a family at 25. My boys goal is startying a family at 35. People can disagree or whatever but it’s how I would love to have my life, get married and have a family young (& I’m pretty crazy about him too.)
ANYWAY we met at work, we were on the same team. They separated us but still work less then 100 yrs away from each other everyday. I girl i share an office with got engaged over Memorial day weekend, nbd she and her Fiance work with us and have been together for 4 years. THEN, Over the 4th weekend someone else we work with got engaged. He’s been dating the girl for 5 months and before that he was a major player. It hurt a bit that he got engaged first. And when I mentioned all the gossip about it to SO he said people possip too much and he doesn’t like to get involved (odd because he ALWAYS gossips with me and he shut this convo down.)
Now today they sent out the quaterly newsletter and the two that we work with that got engaged are listed along with the guys who propoedover the 4th weekend in the congratsannouncements. And WOW I didn’t think it would bother me but it kinda does. Like, I want everyone else to see we’re serious (I want to be in the newletter, childish I know), and here this guy is younger than my SO and he’s s committing to someone he’s known for 5 months.
So, I get it, I didn’t before but hey it sucks when someone else gets engaged who hasn’t been dating as long as you.
Post # 3
I know it’s hard but everyone does it on their own time. It sounds like you are on the same page with what you want so just be patient!
Post # 4
It does suck. It also sucks when people have a shorter engagement then you. For instance, one of my friends just got engaged in March and is getting married in a week. I have been engaged almost a year and we still don’t have a date, but we are eloping.
Ofcourse, she did get pregnant…but still! I can’t help but be a tiny bit jealous!
Good luck waiting, it will happen 🙂
Post # 5
My Fiance and I have been together for 15 months but got engaged at 4 months. Yeah crazy I know. BUT sometimes you just know. Sometimes someone steps in your life and you actually can’t think of one reason you would want to live without them. Now I wasnt expecting a proposal but when he asked I was so happy to say yes. I was honored and still am. Try not to be jealous over little things like that. It will happen when the time is right.
Post # 6
Wow! one of my favorite books, “The Surrendered Single” says that 6 months is long enough to know. It’s great book by the way.
But I waited until almost a year to bring it up since my guy and all my friends would think I was crazy…haha! I knew after 4 months 🙂
Post # 7
I’m also older than you (almost 28) and everyone has their opinion about what timing is appropriate. But only you know what’s right for you and that’s the right ttter what anyone says. So I respect that you know what you want even though you’re younger.
Post # 8
It totally does stink when others get engaged and you are still waiting. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said, you want other to know that you guys are serious too. That was a huge deal for me.
Post # 9
Coming from the other side of this situation, it’s best if you don’t make these other couples engagements about you – it’s a time to be happy for the decision they’ve made. You will have your own journey and will expect the same love and support along the way from coworkers and friends.
Post # 10
@DreamingBee: I think you know early on too. I told SO when we first started dating I think you know with in the first year and if you don’t know by then you’re just wasting each others time.
Funny though I think my mom knew the first week we started dating. I mentioned he might have to leave for flight school in Alabama before we started dating and one night a few days later she said ‘Are you ready to move to Alabama?’ to which I responded, ‘it’s so humid there, my hair is going to frizz.’ and she said ‘you’ll have to wear it curly all the time.’ And we both smiled, it was one of thoes converstations that aren’t actually about the words your saying. A month after that my SO told me if I would leave him because of flight school he wouldn’t go. (Of course I would NEVER ask him to do that) So we knew early on, it’s just being patient and waiting for when he has the money and when he wants to do it.
Post # 11
I know how you feel. I never thought I’d have someone date a shorter time than we have (1yr and 6 months) AND get engaged but my cousin got engaged after maybe 5 months with her guy. I’m happy for her becuase they are the nicest ppl ever, but it did make me sad.
All this being patient will work out in the end. 🙂
Post # 12
You still have plenty of time. Enjoy your relationship!
Post # 13
It is hard to watch others get engaged. I mean I’m happy for those that do get engaged, but I’m more than ready for it to be me too. So I see where you are coming from.
Post # 14
I feel ya, sister. I keep seeing Facebook friends who are still in college getting engaged and it’s like, “I remember when you first changed your status to ‘in a relationship’! It wasn’t that long ago!”
One of my friends met a guy, got engaged, and had a wedding, all within one year. But she is in her early 30s and wants to start a family. It’s hard not to compare yourself to other couples, but you just have to remember that every couple has their own reasons and timeline.
Post # 15
I understand how you feel. I find my self limiting just how excited I am when SO mentions any talk about engagement only because my Boyfriend or Best Friend has been with her SO for 7yrs longer than us and I’m sure it must hurt.