(Closed) Ok I will throw this out there.. I’m sure to be RIPPED to shreds..

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I think her problem with canceling or postponing is that out-of-town guests have already made travel arrangements, like plane tickets, etc., is that right?

Post # 33
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

What about your photographer? Are you hiring one? Much as I hate to say it (given how important many brides rank photography), you could dramatically cut costs if you got rid of him/her or had him/her for only a short time. If you’ve put down a deposit, perhaps ask if the photographer could come to shoot the ceremony and formal portraits for the cost you’ve already paid (ask about their hourly rate; in DC it’s around $200 an hour, so if you’ve put a $500 deposit down then you’ve essentially paid for 2 hours of their time) and not come to the reception.

Also consider setting up a flickr site for guests to upload photos in lieu of a professional photographer. Everyone has digital cameras, among all of them you are going to get some great shots. Ask friends or relatives whose photography you trust to take reception shots that are important to you (your first dance, cake cutting, etc.). 

Post # 34
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

For music, perhaps do an iPod reception instead of a DJ, if you’d hired one. Those portable iPod speakers (where the iPod docks in the center) put out great sound. It can get quite loud, enough to fill a decent sized room. No, it wouldn’t be the same as a DJ or rented speakers/sound equipment, but you would still have music at your reception.

Post # 35
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

On the reception, you could try to cut its length to save a few hundred dollars.

Or, if your reception venue really won’t budge, scrap that location and get something bare bones. Find a room big enough to hold all your guests and go with it. Check out churches, school auditoriums, community centers. Do the food yourself—light snacks (like pretzels, nuts, crackers, sandwich trays from the grocery store), soda, and your cupcakes only. Decorate with crepe paper! If the place has tables and chairs (hopefully it would), cover with paper tablecloths and let it be. 

You’ll find a way. We believe in you (and your wedding).

Post # 36
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Newbee

I know how frustrating it can get when it comes to financial issue!  All of the suggestions are great, but honestly it’s a lot easier said then done and it’s not as easy as they thought.  I don’t know what to say to you, but maybe you can ask all your guest to give u money in lieu of gifts.  i had a friend that did that for her wedding, and she ended up collecting about a few thousand from the wedding itself.  I hope that advice help and at this point, it’s rather that you be honest with all your guests and tell them that you need money much more than anything else.  Good Luck!!

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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Post # 38
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Sorry! That was hard to read. I guess that’s what happens when you edit in word. Here is what I said, hopefully readable this time… Okay, so I’ve been thinking about your situation and trying to decide what I would do if I were in your shoes.  Of course I’m only basing this on what I know of you from the posts you’ve left so here goes. Dear guests, After a serious illness followed by the subsequent loss of my job, my fiance and I have found ourselves in a situation where we are no longer able to fund the wedding of our dreams. However, there is still going to be a wedding. Instead of a formal affair we are planning to exchange vows at (insert a city park here).You are all invited to attend this ceremony.In lieu of gifts we are asking everyone to bring a dish for a pot luck that will follow the ceremony at the same venue.We will have access to volleyball nets and I’ll bring some other garden games so dress casually. I apologize if this has become an inconvenience for any of you but I hope you will understand our situation.So please, come help us turn lemons into lemonade and join us as we declare our love for each other and celebrate our union with a day of fun in the sun! Miss C

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