(Closed) Ok I'm strange…I like it when people touch my stomach!!

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Not insane. I don’t want strangers touching me, but family members I will tolerate. I find it to be a bit awkward, but I don’t get angry about it.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I always feel the need to touch a pregnant lady’s stomach. Sorry if it offends anyone, but I think it’s a little expected. Glad you like it! 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Rubbs:  Please don’t…it’s not expected, and just because there’s a baby in there doesn’t make it any more okay for you to touch our stomach than it would be for me to reach out and grab yours. You wouldn’t just grab a stranger’s baby without asking, would you? Don’t do it to their stomach either!

 

 

I’m pregnant right now and I HATEEEEE it. Luckily most people ask, but when I say I would prefer if they didn’t they get all whiny about it, like, “Awww, come on!” Um, I said no. It’s my body, a part of my body that I do not like people touching. I tolerate it for my mother, but that’s about it. I constantly have to dodge co-worker and customer’s attempted belly grabs and it is so aggravating – stop touching me!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Wonderstruck:  there’s a huge difference between a stomach and a child. What percentage of people, especially ladies, touch your stomach on average? 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Rubbs:  “I always feel the need to touch a pregnant lady’s stomach. Sorry if it offends anyone, but I think it’s a little expected.”

Please don’t.  That is such an invasion of privacy and personal space.

I am 6w6d today, and I am already anxious about people trying to touch me once the news is public.  They won’t like my reaction one bit.  I won’t be nice about it because I think it’s extremely presumptuous.  Immediate family who ask permission first are the only possible exception.  Of course my husband can touch my belly whenever he wants!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ElbieKay:  Are you aware that I am speaking about pregnant women that I know?? I’m not about to run up to a stranger and touch her stomach. But when my aunt and cousins had babies, yes, everyone rubbed their stomache and “talked” to the baby. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Rubbs:  It is a hugely high percentage. And I think it’s extremely rude to just reach out and grab the stomach of someone you don’t know, people defending their right to do so just boggles my mind. My being pregnant does not make my stomach public property – it belongs to me and my baby, and I really don’t appreciate people (especially people I don’t know, although I dislike it regardless) just reaching out and grabbing a part of me that makes me extremely uncomfortable to have touched by others. I’m sorry if I sound harsh, but it’s something I’ve been dealing with a LOT lately, and I’m quite sick of it.

ETA: You didn’t clarify, so I had no way of knowing you meant people you know and not strangers…but regardless, I think it’s polite to ask first. Some people have more of a personal space bubble and it just seems like good manners to me to ask first. They may be annoyed by it, be having some pains or discomfort that are aggravated by touching, etc.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Wonderstruck:  Once again, I was not speaking about strangers. Sorry if that wasn’t clarified. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, for me, I’d be pissed if a random stranger touched my bump. If it’s someone I know, I don’t see the harm. My mom wanted to rub my bump when I saw her a few weeks ago, and she asked first so I was cool with it.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@LuvMySailorIt’s good that you like it. It must make it much more easier on you! 🙂

@RubbsI’m in the camp where I hate it. Only family or close friends have touched it (without asking) and I want to smack their hand or start rubbing their belly. I’ve also had a large personal space bubble my entire life and people know this. Pregnancy didn’t make that bubble pop. But… I didn’t get the whole ‘don’t touch my belly thing’ until I got pregnant. No one told me to back off when I asked to touch friends’ bellies. Maybe they were being nice or didn’t know what to say. Who knows! Everyone is differnt. Maybe they loved it and I’m the odd one.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah, I honestly don’t understand why anyone would want to touch someone’s stomach just because there’s a fetus underneath.  It definitly shouldn’t be expected.  

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

This reminds me of when I was little; I remember wanting to peak under a pregnant lady’s shirt to see the baby 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s realy weird that random people would try to touch your stomach.  I’m a very touchy person by many people’s standards and I would not like this or ever do this to someone else.  I work with kids and I wouldn’t mind if the kids did that, but not adults.  No way.  Sorry there are people that do that.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

OP I have a feeling I will be just like you! I love touching pregnant womens bellys so I dont  think I will care if anyone touches my belly!!

Here’s too hoping I have a belly for people to touch soon!

 

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