Post # 1
To implement Mr. Bee’s Pact.
Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been talking engagement since October, have decided on a timeline of sometime this year, and went e-ring shopping three weeks ago. My problem is that I am majorly type A and I compulsively plan things. So obviously when there are sales at the jewelry store housing my precious engagement ring I’m going to bring it up. Obviously when his sister got hired at a wedding dress boutique I started browsIng dresses. I’m a girl, guilty.
Problem is Boyfriend or Best Friend is all about the surprise of engagements so me talking about it all the time is starting to stress him out, and he calmly and sweetly told me yesterday that the engagement is his job and I need to calm down and that as soon as he has the money he will buy my dream ring and propose.
I can take a hint.
So the pact has now commenced! I’ve been working out, got a new job, got accepted to Grad school and I’ve been having a lot of friend/family time. I feel good, bees.
Who else is doing the Pact, and how is it going for you?
Post # 3
I’m really “doing the pact” but me and my SO are in the same boat. So I’ve kinda just vowed to myself to not bring it up lol and let him do his thing…because clearly it will happen. It’s just SO hard to imagine because it’s something I’ve dreamed about for so long. Hang in there girl! 🙂
Post # 4
Lol I know, it’s super tough but worth it. I’m just one of those people that doesn’t handle surprises well, so letting SO totally take over this whole thing is very foreign to me. He absolutely refuses to tell me anything about his proposal plans, but I managed to get him to at least let me pick the ring. He’s such a sweetheart. You hang in there too! It’ll happen sooner than later for both of us 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard
I need to do this too! It’s hard because I’m just so excited about it, which I told him. I know a proposal is coming this year and he’s told me it will happen by the end of this summer, he said he has a plan in mind, the ring is picked out…but like yours, he is all about the surprise! He even told me he was upset that I knew it was coming in 2012…as though I would have any idea of which of the 365 days he would pick! lol. I also am a major planner so it’s been hard letting that go. My close friend just got engaged in December and is planning her wedding for Summer 2013 – the same time we plan to marry. I did slip up and tell him that this might change our plans for setting a date, and in my head was stressed for a bit about it. But in reality, he’ll propose when the mood is right, and I want it to be a surprise as well. As for wedding planning, it’ll come together. I’m just trying to let go of it and let him do his thing, I know it will be more meaningful that way and I would hate to ruin his proposal with stress and anxiety! So I need to get on this pact too. 🙂
Post # 6
I have to start doing something too. The talks about it only get us to stress and argue. My SO has had enough of hearing about it. He told me that 2012 is the year that it will happen and that’s it. He is planning a big surprise and wants it to be very memorable.
I on the other hand am one of those that needs to know everything, so this is really tough.
We just have to hang in there, but sometimes it really feels like torture LOL
Post # 7
@ashleighxcult: You are my twin it sounds like. I am a major Type A personality and have to control everything. Long story short my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have casually looked @ rings, talked about a timeline this year, and also been together 5 years. We do not live together though due to personal preference.
I have been working out, focusing on work and doing things for myself and it feels great. I know he is getting a little nervouse but I have been very up front with him that he has until October and then I am out. I told him I am not going to be a terminal Girlfriend and he has plenty of time to get his #$%$ together. I know he wants to spend his life with me but I think he is also nervous about doing it. His family, my family and the both of us know it will eventually happen just waiting sucks!
Good luck to you!