Post # 1
We are about 2 months out from the wedding, and I finally thought about the vows. I have no idea where to start, do we write out the entire ceremony? Just our vows? I’m so confused. I think we’re going to do a wine box instead of unity sand or a candle and it’s just going to be pretty simple. No singers, MAYBE a reading, not sure.
Can someone halllllllp?!!!
Post # 3
I’d speak with the officiant— there are a TON of templates on the Internet that you can find, but some of them are clunky, too long, too short, etc. Your officiant should be able to give you a little advice and get you pointed in the right direction. Unless your officiant is a family member/friend who got ordained just to marry you, your officiant has been through tons of weddings and knows what works well, what doesn’t, and what a logical “flow” is. They also each have different standards— some will write the ceremony for you as part of their service and fee, others will do the exact same ceremoy for every couple and just need you to give them a few details, and everything in between.
As to actually writing the vows, all they are are the promises you want to make to one another as you marry, so think about the things that you genuinely want to offer and promise each other. Stick with a short list— you don’t need to make an Academy Awards acceptance speech— the words will fall into place fairly easily once you have the actual promises defined.