Post # 1
I have been looking at engagement rings for a ages and we are now in the process of getting one made.
After looking on loads of sites, call me crazy, but it seems to me like the ‘average’ American woman has a ring of a least 1-1.5 carats. Is this the case? Why does the average British woman seem to have a much smaller stone than her American counterpart? Are diamonds less expensive in America or are they of lesser quality or is it simply because they can afford it!?
Seriously, everywhere I seem to look there is an American feeling like she’s had a rough deal as her ring is only a 1 ct diamond I almost feel inferior!
Please explain Bees…
Post # 3
@SweetChick: No idea! I think that Americans are in the habbit of saving, so that when it comes to buy an engagement ring, the family or guy is more likely to have a bit of money put aside in order to pay for a bigger ring. I also think that things are generally cheaper in America. When I was planning my wedding, it was often cheaper to buy from America, even with the shipping costs!
USA Bees – correct me if I’m wrong??
Post # 4
I think that salespeople (or even the brides?) just want others to think that the average is that big. Mine’s .33 carat and feels like it’s just the right size, and I would say from my circle of friends and coworkers the average is much closer to .5 to maybe .7 carat.
Post # 5
I have no idea! I didn’t think I had such a “small” ring until I came on here!
My ring has two diamonds and each one is .25 carats. Diamonds are spendy!
Post # 6
Maybe it’s the celebrity-obsessed culture here? I don’t know how big that is in the UK, but nearly every week in the US some celebrity is getting engaged with a huge diamond on her hand.
Post # 7
I chose an asha so I could get a larger stone and not have SO be broke. I have big fingers, so I like the look of a bigger stone better, because smaller stones accentuate the largeness of my hands.
I feel like external idicators of personal wealth (cars, jewelry, clothing to some extent) are more popular in America, so perhaps thats where the push for large stones come from.
Post # 8
I honestly don’t know. When I was married at 19 (I am 44) I had a diamond speck LOL then when he graduated college and got a job we upgraded to a .50 carat. My 2nd marriage I had over 2 carats total weight but the center stone was about .85. Now I have a 1.3-1.5? total with 1 carat center. Looking at my friend’s rings some have smaller some have bigger or a different stone than a diamond. I’d say my ring is on the bigger end of what I typically see around here…I think the media and diamond stores hype it up quite a bit. I know not everyone over here has giant rings. Or maybe there are a lot more moissy’s and CZ’s out there. My Fiance actually really wanted to get me 1.5 to 2 carat solitaire because that’s what his ex had (1.5 purchased from a pawn shop) but I really just couldn’t see spending all the extra $$ on a ring that big, mine is plenty.
Post # 9
I’m with itshouldsnow! Reading the posts on this site can make you think your ring is small, but depending on where you live and/or your circle of friends/relatives things could be very different. Around here, nobody really cares about one big rock. Around here it is in vogue to have lots of bling with multiple tiny diamonds which is far less expensive than a single large stone.
Post # 10
Hmm I don’t know – my e-ring diamond is smaller than those I have seen on here, but bigger doesn’t always mean better, I just thought it really suited my finger size (small!)
I agree with the above, America seem to supersize stuff, (just an observation and not a stereotype) I’m sure 🙂
Post # 11
I think part of it is that the US probably has several major cities. In NYC, my diamond (I think its .50, no idea) is VERY small. People comment all the time about how “cute” it is. I know so folks from LA who also said the average is 2 carats and over.
Post # 12
I have actually talked to many jewelers at jewelry stores and to my surprise, the average size in America is .5 carats. Here, there might just be a lot of bees with the bigger size stones just wanting to share ring porn or something. I love the size of my diamond, (.81 carats) but if I would have read up more on asha or moissy, I would so have one.
Post # 13
Without knowing avg diamond prices in the UK I couldn’t really say whether or not there is a tendency for larger stones here because of market value being cheaper or not. You also have to keep in mind that the avg size of stones in the US varies GREATLY by region. In the midwest 1 ct and under (especially under) are more the norm. On the coasts you see more 1ct + sizes. But that might have to do with the fact that you see more high paying salaries on the coasts. Maybe?
I’m also not aware of how the UK goes about buying their stones. While there are a lot of people around here that save before they purchase, there are a lot who finance, which means they can get that larger stone without having to put a lot of cash up front. Is financing not as big in the UK?
When we were shopping we found that a good quality loose .75 ct on the east coast was going to run us an avg of 4K. We ended up purchasing our stone in the carribbean and negotiated a 1.5 ct for 5K. (It’s been GIA graded and of fantastic quality, we just happened to come across a desperate jeweler and we were offering a bulk purchase so to speak – so, yeah, unique situation.)
Post # 14
On another note about jewelers pushing the “big” rock dream – I don’t know how it is for other states, but every jeweler we’ve seen in the last 7 months have actually pushed us in the opposite direction. I have thin fingers and they all recommended we purchase under 1 ct if we did purchase from them. Like, they wanted to see me with a .75 max, preferably something closer to .5. They even went so far as to push cheaper, more simple settings as well. So, maybe the jeweler attitude is different depending on your region as well.
Post # 15
@SweetChick: I think that to an extent it’s that a larger proportion the USA succumbed to the De Beers advertising campaign trying to make 1ct the standard a lot more easily than the UK. There isn’t the pressure here for a man to produce a large rock.
I don’t really think it’s that they save more, but as a nation prioritise their money differently.
There’s less of a culture of foreign holidays (I believe about 80% of the US population don’t own a passport).
I’ve got what is considered a fairly whopping ring by the standards of my locality, but it’s TINY compared to a lot of girls here.
I’m not saying it’s bad to splash out, but other than celebrities and the aristocracy I’ve never heard of a British couple where their engagement ring cost more than £10k (and most are £2k or less, I think). It’s just a cultural thing.
Post # 16
@SpecialSundae: I agree, it is a cultural thing. I think I always had it in my mind that I would get a big diamond ring from my future husband. And before we got engaged, I made my expectations clear to my now Darling Husband. My ring is not huge by my standards, a little over 1ct. My mentality was this: I am going to wear this ring forever, see it every single day and it will be the most expensive piece of jewelry I probably ever own. I want it to be nice and I want to be proud of it. Whether we want to admit it or not, in the US the size of your ring is a status symbol and is judged by others. I would also like to add that my wedding band was extremely inexpensive compared to my e-ring, which was more important to me.