(Closed) Ok recent mamas.. be honest. How painful was child birth?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had epidurals with both my childbirths, so I would say it is not THAT bad.  It does hurt, but the contractions I had before the epidural were worse than the healing afterwards.  I had an episiotomy the first time and they let me tear just a little with the second birth.  I felt pretty good about 5 days after giving birth.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Not gonna lie, it was extremely painful, at least for me.  But giving birth was also euphoric and a complete rush of pleasure at the same time. 

I had an epidural and didn’t have any trouble with it, I didn’t even notice the needle because the contractions were so bad, lol.  I healed up well from the episiotomy and had no tearing at all.  But the entire process is painful, including afterwards, which was the worst part for me.

Honestly, though, the baby makes everything worthwhile, it’s not a cliche, it’s the truth.

Edit:  Just noticed the word “recent” in your heading, oops! That’s not me, my baby is now in college.  🙂  But it’s not something you ever forget, seems like yesterday.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t be scared!  Woman that go into labor that are scared of labor will feel more pain.  Its a fact.

Our birth plan designates that the words pain, hurt, contractions, push be used during labor.  If you anticipate pain than you will feel pain.  Don’t buy into the hype put out there, definitely do not watch A Baby Story.  All those shows are unrealistic.  Welcome the miraculous process of birthing your child and you will be alright!

By The Way my daughter is 15 and I am due with #2 in August.

Post # 7
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Newbee

Honestly, it was not anywhere near as bad as I thought it would be. The contractions were painful but manageable. I eventually got an epidural when I was about 7-8cm dialated and after the epidural I felt no pain at all, even with the episiotomy. Recovery was easy too. My leg muscles were all sore from having my legs up and pushing for so long but my stiches never bothered me. Emotionally it was really tough though. I was not prepared for the two weeks of constant crying. Oh, and I am a total wimp and had a really rough pregnancy so I am not super tough or anything. I did bleed for quite a while but it was like a really heavy period. I didn’t have any pain going to the bathroom although I will admit I didn’t have much bladder control for a week or so. I peed on the floor more than I care to admit. My midwife said it was from the catheter and it did go away but for a week everytime I heard water running….bad news. Sorry if that is Too Much Information.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had a cesarean so I did not deal with the pushing. As far as the recovery, it was easier then the contractions in my opinion. Every woman is different and experiences child birth differently. . The bleeding was bad at first but got lighter and went away at 4 weeks. .

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@CindyRelly:  I agree. I’m not pregnant or even TTC, but I’m terrified of *ahem* pooping after giving birth. I have heard some stories and that may be why I’m so afraid.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@CindyRelly:   I was so scared ahead of time, too.  The funny thing is, though, the closer you get to your delivery time the more ready you’ll feel.  It’s an “automatic” kind of feeling, hard to describe, but you’ll be ready.  Trust your body to know the right thing to do.  It really is such a natural process.  It’s not painful in the same way an injury is painful.  It’s not an injury at all.  Believe me, I was terrified, but once the process of labor started I really felt calm and peaceful. 

Just go with it and you’ll be fine, really.  The whole thing is miraculous and amazing and I wouldn’t have missed it for the entire world.  You are so blessed to be a woman who can give birth to your own child.  Don’t miss the miracle.  Fear is normal but it will subside when you need it to.  You’ll be calmer and stronger than you can imagine right now.  🙂  And there’ll be lots of people there to help you through it, too.  No worries!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Agree the baby does make it all worth it.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I will be completely honest with you.  I can tolerate pain pretty well and I will tell you that…

 

It was the MOST painful experience I have ever had or think that I possibly could have.  I cant imagine going through anything more painful.  In other words, any MORE pain and I feel like I would literally die.  It was THAT painful.  But yet, you get through it and yes, it was freaking worth it BOTH times.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

One more thing that I don’t think a lot of women who have never had babies realize…

Actually the pushing out of the baby is the easy part.  Its the contractions that are painful.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

with my first baby I didn’t need an episiotomy and neither did I tear, I was out shopping after 3 days lol. My other two births were caesareans; I recovered better after my second caesarean, because I made myself get moving more quickly! I laid in bed for a week after my first and had some complications. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It was the most painful thing I have ever gone through. The contractions hurt the worst. I got an epidural and was relieved. BUT it goes by so fast. Seriously I remember thinking “Omg this is going to take forever.” I was induced at 1 am and the contractioins were bad, I was thinking it was only like 1:30 because I felt like time was moving so slow and BOOM it was close to 4 am. By 10 am I was pushing. The recovery was worse for me. I tore or was cut. (Not sure) I fell on the stitches when trying to go to the bathroom. I wasn’t prepared for after birth. You will do great though(:

 

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