(Closed) OK So I thought not getting a STD….

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I wouldn’t post it on facebook, or send a text, but I think that if you have family that thinks that they are invited you should call them and let them know that due to space constraints you aren’t able to invite everyone. You certainly don’t want any part of your wedding day to be awkward; and I think turning people away at the door, will only cause you more stress on your day!

I definetely DO NOT think that you are being snotty in anyway! Does your mom realize how expensive weddings are? Especially since you have five children. You also should not feel obligated to invite someone who you havent spoken to in years, or aren’t close to just because they are family. I’ve never understood that logic. If you’re closer to a friend than you are to an aunt, why wouldn’t you want that friend to be there on the day, over your aunt?

Post # 4
3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I completely agree that calling people individually is a better approach.  If you post on FB or send out a mass text, you’re going to be seen as snotty and uppity– I’d think it was rude if I saw someone writing that on FB. 

But if you know who’s planning on staying over, you can call them and address the issue.  Thank them and say you’re flattered they want to celebrate, but you’re having a tiny wedding and paying for it all yourself, so you just can’t invite more people.  

Post # 5
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

People you haven’t spoken to for years think they’re going to stay IN YOUR HOME? Assuming an invitation is one thing (not a good thing, but not abnormal for a family member), but assuming a guest room, clean towels and a mint on the pillow? 


Post # 6
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I totally agree with PPs the FB approach might angry them, the phone aproach sounds better.

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