(Closed) Ok to cash gift checks before the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Ok to cash now?
    Yes : (26 votes)
    74 %
    No, Wait : (9 votes)
    26 %
    Other please explain : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    If they are not coming to the wedding, I don’t see any issue with it.  I would have that Thank You card in the mail the day you cash it, so they get it around the time they see it deducted from their bank.  It will show you really appreciated their thoughtfulness.

    Post # 4
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Yes, send a thank you note and cash it – it is nice for the guests to be able to reconcile their bank accounts sooner, less risk of it bouncing, and less risk of you losing it. Go ahead and cash it, no one will think it’s because you needed the money for the wedding.

    Post # 5
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No, I would wait until after the wedding.

    Post # 6
    5800 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would deposit them, I think it is ruder to hold on to a check for weeks.

    Post # 7
    13294 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We cashed checks ahead of time, because some people sent them up to two months out.  We also sent out thank you cards to each person prior to cashing the check, though!

    Post # 8
    4284 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Deposit them and send a thank you right away.


    Post # 10
    9115 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Deposit them. The longer you wait the more risk (if any) of the check bouncing, plus people tend to forget their “owed” balance and it’s easier for people to keep track.

    Plus, the longer you hang onto the checks, the more likely you are to lose them.

    Deposit them and send a lovely thank you.

    ETA: I’d send a generic thank you now, and then send a proper thank you when you get them.

    Post # 11
    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Send a generic thank you now – and the photo one then.

    Post # 12
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @mjwyatt84:  Cash them sooner rather than later. It sucks for the people writing the check to have their account suddenly missing money when they wrote the check months ago and forgot about it.

    Post # 13
    831 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    here’s a related question maybe someone could help me out, I got a check a couple of weeks ago from a cousin who’s not attending my wedding. It’s made out to Mr. and Mrs. X. I’m not Mrs. X yet and won’t be for over a month. 

    Can my fiance deposit this in his account, as his full name is on it?  I really don’t want to wait because I agree with PP that it’s rude to sit on it for weeks, but I’m not sure what other option I have.

    Post # 14
    157 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @kimm99:  This is entirely up to your bank. Since it’s made out to both you AND him, legally, both signatures are required. If I were your banker, however, and I knew you well, I would go ahead and let you sign with your maiden name.

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