Post # 17
i think it’s more common for women who only want to wear one ring to wear the wedding ring only…but your situation is perfectly fine too! i think it’s a sweet idea to jazz up your engagement ring. to me, that would symbolize that it’s more than an engagement ring, since you’re changing it up a little; it’s more like you’re combining what would be your wedding ring with your engagement ring. go for it!
Post # 18
You guys rock! I am really starting to feel alot better.
At first I was worried that I was the only one or odd or that it was offensive…
Post # 19
To be fair, a ring isn’t necessary at all. I mean I like it for the symbolism of a promise that I’ve made and that’s been made to me, but really you don’t need one. It’s really just a personal choice!
Post # 20
I will start by saying that you should do whatever you feel best about- the ring is just a symbol of the love you and Fiance have for each other, and as long as the two of you agree on what that symbol is and are happy about it, then that is what you should do.
That said, from an outsiders perspective, I will point out a few things.
First, I have known of people who have only used their engagement ring as a wedding ring- especially in this economy, it is becoming slightly more common. However, most of them have to deal with questions like “When are you getting married?” *after* the wedding. People who weren’t invited assume that you aren’t married yet b/c they don’t see the second band.
If the possibility of this happening doesn’t bother you, then nbd. But be aware that some people might ask.
Second, from experience, I have seen more people just wear the wedding band and not the engagement ring. A band with no center stone reads, to an outsider, as a wedding band, where a ring with a big ole’ stone in the middle reads as an engagement ring. Lots of people (especially those who work with their hands) will just wear the wedding band day-to-day, and then wear the engagement ring on special occasions.
If it were me, I would probably wear a plain band or band with some small pave or channel set diamonds day-to-day, then bring out the engagement ring for special occasions. Since you don’t like jewelry that much, that would be even less on your hand, anyway.
But you need to do what is right for you. What is right for us shouldn’t matter.
Post # 21
Definitely nothing wrong with that! We are having a small ceremony in 2 weeks and we are using my engagement ring as my wedding ring.
Haha I’m seeing the comments about LOTR and it made me laugh out loud. I thought the same thing.
Post # 22
You can have one ring for both! Do whatever you want!
Post # 23
It’s definitely ok to have one ring as your engagement and wedding ring. I think Khloe Kardashian only had one ring (her basketball player fiance gave it to her and when she was on The View last week) she showed it off now that she’s married, it was the same ring. So you see celebrities can wear one ring too. There’s no need to buy another ring just because society/tradition deems it so. You should do what’s comfortable for you and your budget.
We are in modern times, that’s why I suggest buying your engagement ring online at a place like James Allen (http://www.jamesallen.com) The site is not only top quality, it’s also up to 50% cheaper than most jewelry stores.
Post # 24
i am so pleased to read this, as i have only just got engaged, and we are marrying next year, but the ring i have chosen is so beautiful, i havent seen a wedding band that would look nice with it and i am more than happy to just have this one.
i suppose i will have to give it to him the day before the wedding just for him to give it back to me on the day, but i dont care.
i thought i was a bit odd wanting this, but its obviously something that others do , reading this thread.
Post # 25
I think it’s fine! I would like to do this, but I would also like to do it with a split-shank ring, so it would still kind of maintain a “double band” look…
Post # 27
It is totally okay. I actually prefer it. I think having a wedding band (seperate ring) is a fairly recent occurence.
My ring has diamonds on the side- not on the top next to the diamond- actually on the side, so I prefer to have my wedding band on my right hand.
I wish I hadn’t bothered getting one. It cost so little in comparison to my ering, and it shows. I guess I just thought I was suposed to have one, but now wish I didn’t.
Post # 28
I know this is an old post buuut incase other bees are looking for answers. Have you considered getting a tattoo? My cousin is a firefighter so he cant wear his ring while on duty what with fire and metal and what not. So what they did was got bands that he can wear for special occasions and then he got a tatoo that shows around his ring kind of like a guard. His wife got one too so they could match. I thought it was a really cool alternative.
Post # 29
I’m using my e-ring as my wedding ring. It’s a combined heirloom ring (my great grandmother’s center stone in his grandmother’s setting) that I’m absolutely in love with. Because it’s vintage it doesn’t work well with another band and I really like the side view, so I decided prior to the engagement I would only have 1 ring. We’re thinking about doing a ring warming ceremony so I’ll probably take it off mornig-of and put it on whatever we’re using to hold the rings. Then both rings (mine and his) will be retrieved for the exchange. My officiant has no problem with this.
Post # 30
I don’t see why not, I’ve heard of a few bees doing that.
Post # 31
@April_Fools_Bride: My stepmother did that, or maybe you could get two bands welded together so it looks like one