Post # 1
Hi! My fiance and I are picking out our menu for our wedding in Octboer and are having some concerns over what 3 entrees to offer. We are definitely having a vegetarian penne pasta dish (several of our guests are vegetarian), a chicken dish, and are trying to decide whether to offer pork or beef.
Our wedding is black tie optional. The third entree choice will either be pancetta wrapped pork loin or roasted prime rib of beef. The pork is much less expensive and we are already tight on our budget as it is. It’d be nice to save a grand or two by offering pork instead, but I feel weird not offering beef.
Any words of wisdom are appreciated! Thank you!
Post # 2
Honestly I wouldn’t order either of those options but I’m very, very picky about beef because I like it well done so I think you’re good going for the pork because people tend to be particular about how they like their beef.
But that vegetarian penne sounds pretty awesome.
Post # 3
It’s your wedding 🙂 Prime rib sounds a bit heavy- to me at least. Heck, I’m not even giving my guests an option- everyone gets filet with shrimp.
Post # 4
I think you can offer anything you like.
it is rare that a wedding is remembered for its food, and i promise that no one is coming to judge your choices. 🙂
Post # 5
Kay143: Go with the cheaper option! People will be fine 🙂 I’ve been to weddings where we don’t even get an option, so yours sounds fine.
Post # 6
I think pasta, chicken, and pork are completely acceptable options. If anyone’s seriously concerned you don’t have beef they should be grateful they don’t have anything more pressing to worry about!!
Post # 7
Kay143: I think pork will be fine, everyone will find something they like to eat – whether they go veggie or chicken or otherwise. As an aside, “black tie optional” is not a thing.
Post # 8
- Wedding: Cuvier Park/ La Jolla, CA
I have been to several weddings and the food was unremarkable. I hoped to impress our guests. So, I understand your situation. (the wedding was over a year ago & people still say how wonderful the food was)
You can offer whichever you like best. Have you tasted the dishes beforehand? It is advisable to do so. We did and were very thankful to have a preview of the food.
Post # 9
carolinabelle: Ok, thanks! Black Tie Optional is a thing tho. Our wedding is fancy but we are not requiring tuxedos of the guests, but khakis and less formal attire are not what we want our guests wearing. It’s letting our guests know that it’s very formal without making them go out of their way to rent tuxes. I want everyone to be formal but don’t want to be a bridezilla about it haha http://fashion.about.com/cs/glossary/a/partydefinition.htm
Post # 10
Thanks for your help everyone! I feel a lot better about not offering beef.
Post # 11
I think the pork sounds delish! No one’s going to think less of you because you don’t have beef. I’ve been to plenty of great weddings that didn’t have a beef option. And if people don’t like pork there are 2 other options they are bound to like
Post # 12
Kay143: Every wedding is black tie optional – it’s always an option to wear tuxes/very formal dresses, so it’s redundant and since telling adults how to dress is rude, it’s also rude. The reason black tie is ok is because it’s not a dress code – it’s a style of event.
Post # 13
I say go for the beef because a lot of people can’t eat pork for religious reasons.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Thank you for picking a good vegetarian option! I’m so sick of going to weddings where I’m served dried-out stuffed shells or just sides. Vegetarians are people too!
As for the meat, whatever tastes better to you lol.
Post # 15
Kay143: part of me says that because you’re having black tie optional you should really offer beef – it has that formality. But realistically, the pork sounds delicious and I don’t think anyone will really care!