Post # 16
Both of those sound good to me! I would enjoy either. As PP said, prime rib tends to be heavy. I love eating it, but I have never seen a small portion of it! I would hate as a guest to get it and only be able to eat 1/4 of it and not have a way to take it home so it ends up in the garbage.
Post # 17
carolinabelle: I appreciate your opinion on the food. I don’t appreciate your criticism and calling me rude for a dress code that I didn’t ask your opinion on. Wedding boards are supposed to be a place where people that are getting married can get help and support other people that are getting married. I’d appreciate you not bringing it up anymore… I didn’t ask about it, it’s my wedding, and you’re not coming, so there’s no reason to get snarky about it.
Thank you to everyone for your opinions on the food! It’s really helpful!
Post # 18
Kay143: Pancetta is one of those things that people either love or hate. I personally would go with the prime rib. Yummy yummy yummy! But of course. It’s your more expensive option. How much more expensive is it? Is that something you can or want to fork out, (so to speak, haha!) or would you rather just stick with the pork loin? I feel like the chicken and the pork are both lighter meats, and they tend to dry out fast. You can’t really screw up prime rib.
Post # 19
I would offer the prime rib or beef tenderloin. Skimping on what is likely the biggest expense of the wedding – the FOOD – is incongruent with a “black tie optional” affair. As PPs have said, many people don’t eat pork and pancetta is hit or miss. Just my opinion.
Post # 20
I think if you’re going for fancy black tie optional, the the best match is the prime rib.
Post # 21
Kay143: skip the prime rib. The last wedding where I ordered the beef, it came out too well done (ghastly! As Gordon Ramsey would say) so I basically skipped dinner and the lovely hosts basically overpaid $200 for my plate.
i remember that wedding for the shitty service and snobby guests though I’d never share that with the couple unless asked directly.
Post # 22
Kay143: I would serve beef because it’s more popular, unless of course the pork legitimately tastes much better. Of course, it is not mandatory to serve beef. There are many more dietary restrictions when it comes to pork, though.
Also as an aside, I agree that “black tie optional” is a bit of a misnomer.
I want to emphasize that this forum is a place where people getting married can get help and support from others getting married. It is precisely for that reason that carolinabelle was trying to help you to avoid making an etiquette blunder. I thought her comments were spot on and not snarky in the least. I think she had the best of intentions in trying to provide you with help and support so that you didn’t make a silly mistake.
If it’s helpful to know, “black tie” is a designation because it is a particular standard of hosting, not simply a dress code, and very few weddings meet this standard of hosting. Black tie optional, however, makes no sense because weddings are always black tie optional — but this designation does nothing to describe the standard of hosting of the event. An event either reaches the standard of black tie or it does not. The optional part does not make sense in light of black tie as a hosting standard.
For that reason, it is simply a dress code and it is not very polite to dictate to your guests how to dress. Indeed, if you’re having a formal wedding and would like to convey the formality, I would opt for formal ecru invitations with either engraved or letterpressed black script.
I hope this helps.
Post # 23
It really depends on your crowd — we’re thinking about serving neither chicken nor beef at our wedding, but a lot of our guests are from a place where lamb is as popular is beef.
I love pork, but I know plenty of people who aren’t huge fans, and it really needs to be cooked well. I personally think beef is a safer and more popular option, unless your crowd is full of pork fans.
Post # 24
Yeah, “black tie optional” isn’t a thing. It’s either black tie or it isn’t – “black tie optional” basically translates to “Please dress extra fancy for my not-necessarily-extra-fancy-wedding.” I don’t think the other poster was being snarky – she was just trying to prevent you from making an etiquette mis-step.
That aside, I’d go with the beef simply because it’s probably easier to prepare. I don’t really eat meat, but I know that pork is pretty much wasted if it’s the slightest bit overcooked. Granted, some feel that way about beef too, but I don’t think it’s quite to the same extreme.
Post # 25
If you’re indicating any sort of “black Tie” to your guests then I think prime rib is the better choice….
Post # 27
No to beef, I think for a wedding, pork would be easier to digest, beef can be heavy on your stomach and you want to have a glass of wine and dance! Me and My Fi have been veg for around 2 years now, and when we were planning on a sit down reception everything served would be veg, we let our familys know and they didnt have an issue with it. (Instead we are doing a semi-elope now!) Its a hosted event and I think guests would just be happy to be there with you [: (Or should be!)
Post # 28
Thanks everyone! Our wedding (from our end) definitely falls in line with black tie… we just don’t want to force our guests (besides the wedding party and family) to rent tuxes. The reason I even brought it up is to see if the pork was formal enough or whether we should go with the beef because of the blatant formality of the venues, entertainment, etc. which many of you have touched on and is very helpful!
Post # 29
Kay143: the beef always sucks at weddings anyway. Save your money.
Post # 30
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I think it depends on the crowd. I know my family will expect a beef option like filet, so I will most likely be having that along with a chicken and vegetarian option. Pork sounds great too, so as long as it meet any families dietary needs, go for it.