Post # 1
My fiance is dead set on not adding fine china to our registry. He says we really won’t ever use it (which is true) and that its better if we get gifted money rather than things we do not need. I am ok with skipping out on adding it to the registry only because we really won’t use it, but the couple friends that I have asked about it say we HAVE to add it.
What do you guys think about it? Should I add fine china, or is it OK to leave it out?
Post # 3
We didn’t. 1. Nowhere to put it, 2. We would never use it. I did get Christmas plates though, but we entertain for the holidays, so I actually use those. And I got them on clearance at Kohl’s, got about $500 worth of dishes for about $150. I lurrvvveee them long time 🙂
Post # 4
I think it’s fine to leave it out… we aren’t having it on our registry either.
Post # 5
We didn’t have it on ours. I think we’ll use it, but I’m hoping to inherit either my mom’s or my MIL’s, so I didn’t want to ruin my chances of getting family china by already having my own. I already will have to fight with my sister, brother, and Brother-In-Law for it.
Nobody seemed to care that we didn’t add the china.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Perfectly fine to skip it on the registry. It’s not on ours because we don’t know if our forever home will have a formal dining space in which to use it. No sense getting something we may never have a chance to use.
Post # 7
You don’t ‘have’ to register for anything! If you don’t want it or think you’ll have no use for it in the future, don’t register for it.
Post # 8
Totally agree with PPs – this is YOUR registry, and there are no rules about what you have to register for (all those pushy “registry consultants” aside – ignore them, their advice comes mostly from tradition and the desire to sell large quantities of china and crystal which tend to be much more expensive and therefore better for the store than if you register for everyday stuff!). Really, now, the best thing is to realistically think about your lifestyle, now and as you get older: are you the kind of people who like having casual barbeques (and hate handwashing china and crystal!), or are you the kind of people who expect to be hosting formal dinners for business/social, or formal holidays? If you’re in the first group, it makes no sense to get a whole bunch of china you’ll never use – but if you think you might, even as you get older, be part of the second group, then it IS kind of nice to have other people give you china/crystal, as it’s unlikely you’ll want to go out later and spend all that money at once on yourself. Good luck!
Post # 9
We didn’t register for china and I don’t regret it one bit. Honestly I don’t see the point in having it if you only use it like once a year. My parents have been married for 35 years and I have never seen them use their china – I don’t even know what it looks like!
Post # 10
We didn’t register for “fine china,” but I do want dishes that are better than “everyday” that we can use when guests come over.
My requirements were:
– not too expensive
– dishwasher safe
– comes with a “teacup and saucer” NOT a “mug.” (this was actually the hardest to find! Everything that was dishwasher safe had just a mug and was not “cute” looking at all!)
but we finally found one, and it’s very classy and elegant yet not so fancy/expensive that we’re afraid to ever use it! (I think it’s like $60 a setting.)
Post # 12
I have the heirloom china dishes from my grandparnets so I did not need to put them on the registry. They might not be as trendy/fancy but I love that they are the same dishes I have had holiday dinners on my whole life.
Post # 13
We didn’t register for it. If you aren’t going to use it, why waste gift money on it?
Post # 14
we both inherited fine china from our grandparents (that’s currently “living” with our respective parents since we def don’t have room for it in our nyc apt) so we didn’t register for it. we did register for really nice everyday china that i loooove. but i really love a specific set of fine china that hubby talked me out of it since we don’t really have a use for it 🙁 i get really jealous though when i see it on other people’s registries!
Post # 15
@Miss Love:Of course you don’t have to!
Post # 16
Background: Fi grew up in a very well off family. The kind of family that uses fine china, has dinner parties and so on. Fine china is very important to his family.
I gew up in a family where my mom would use the fine china for family dinner to make things special and just because. Otherwise its pretty useless. Plus, it was kept in a box in the china cabinet because it didn’t go with the decor.
When Fiance and I were registering he naturally assumed we’d register for fine china, I naturally assumed its a waste of space. After MUCH discussion we decided not to register for fine china, but we did register for a good quality set of dishes for special occasions.
The biggest factor in our decision was we do not have the space for entertaining, or storage of China. We also don’t have the money to entertain. So, someday when we have the money and space to entertain we’ll also have the money to buy china -we’ll do it then.
FI’s mom is a little upset because she thinks its important, but she’ll just have to deal. She’s probably REALLY upset with the vacuum bags I registered for 😛